Choosing the excellence path

“You should do this.” The vision becomes the reality you deserve!

Envision that your mind and heart desire to transform to be better. The time is ticking louder and faster. You can feel the urgency. Obviously, it is a kind of fantasy; if you wait for a miracle to change you.

Hence, you need to understand how much your change is comparable with how much you put into what you learn and then utilize the learning in daily life. Therefore, allowing your thought and heart to be mindful of the need and the necessity to change is essential.

As you think about changing for the better, you realize that to change is not enough only to learn. You want to do more. You can almost hear your brain talking that you need to be excellent. The need to commit yourself to mastering the new patterns of excellence becomes a necessity.

The sign that you are ready is, you get really excited when you think about this. Your mind and heart tell you, “you should do this.” You can see this matter clearly and certainly. This fact is verified by your approval to decide to be better. You look forward to choosing the excellence path. The vision then becomes the reality you deserve.

DR. Kusnadi
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Break the circle of “mediocre”

When we believe we can do something, we implicitly tap into our brain’s resources. We will charge all our internal resources to find a way to support that belief. Therefore the impossible becomes possible. Only when we strongly believe something is impossible will we automatically not even try thinking of a way. We shut out the possibility altogether.

The challenge is that we have been growing up and continuing to live in so many ways under certain circumstances. Somehow we already have a certain way of thinking (i.e., dogmas, teachings, subcultures, even painful or traumatic experiences, etc., which become our Map of Reality). We don’t see the other possibilities because we already have the most relevant things. We are so comfortable with those belief systems.

Unfortunately, many people have never learned or never have guidance on how to direct and re-program the limiting patterns they run. They are not in charge of their brains. Instead, their brains take charge of them. They let their brains go on ‘auto-pilot,’ running average programs that keep limiting their performance. As a result, they will always feel that they can never do things better than they have done. They simply believe it is not within their control or ability.

This is the right time when we all are waiting for the coming year 2021 to reflect on our lives and ask these questions solemnly: “What challenges from the past can you celebrate overcoming? How has life taught you to grow right now? Have you been avoiding out of fear, and how does fear dictate your daily decisions and actions? Which challenges from the past that you want to celebrate overcoming? What new patterns and habits can you invite into your life?”

When we know the need to seek help, then seek humbly. The path is guiding. Our part is to encompass the calling within. Our capabilities are always more than our own thoughts. There are always more possibilities in front of us than we firmly believe in.
DR. Kusnadi

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Merry Christmas: Becoming the splendid possible person

The greatness of becoming a mindful person is acknowledging things given and, with creative imagination, can make the most out of them. The question of “What can I do the most and the best?” becomes compelling to start a wondrous inner journey. Then, with hopeful imagination, one must answer this further question: “How to be the most splendid possible person?”

Certainly, through this thinking process, one can allow the self to scroll more life direction from the “sacred book” already alive within. Amazingly, the brain will respond to those questions with excitement and determination. The brain tells the heart that “life is too short to be little; it is time to adventure to the best possible.” As a result, with each breath you inhale and exhale, you can articulate those answers in very concrete, simple, daily living joyous ways.

The living wisdom then tells us that manhood is not something given to you, but you need to gain. You gain it daily by embracing your own shadows and bringing them to the light, exulting with respect and love. Your future well-being is in your own hands. The present is where you determine whether or not your future will be happy and joyfully alive.

“Thousands of stars in the night sky glittering. The shepherds sing and dance. Then the air falls to a suddenly. They see one falling star. As the wilderness is calm and full of wonders, the shepherds’ hearts exult, blazing in all glory. Without too much thinking, they are following the falling star that awakens their inner guidance to journey to the path to meet the King.”

Merry Christmas!!!
DR. Kusnadi

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Invoking the Future: Happy New Year 2021

Now the time to take a look at yourself – inside and out. Preparing a pen and a journal book. Be gentle and mindfully communicating with the whole of your senses. Reflect on these questions as you write them down one by one while you read every sentence peacefully. Let all the answers flow from your heart. Your mind only helping to decode the thoughts and feeling into words and sentences without judging. Read each question and answer it right away, one by one. Ready?

How can you describe yourself? Where do you live? What job do you have? How do you relate to your coworkers, friends, and family? Where have you been more focused? If you think of your life now, how does your life ask you to grow?

What kind of old patterns of habit do you want to remove, and what kind of new patterns and habits do you want to invite into your life now? What interests do you pursue? What adventures do you have? What do you truly want from life? Where is your heart guiding you? Do you want wealth and success? Do you want to have happiness and peace of mind? What commitments to yourself do you honor? Do you want a family? Do you want to have a single life? What kind of life do you want to present daily? What do you want to have (ex., a yard, a big home, a yacht, a sports car, etc.)? Where are you going? Are you just wandering through life or have such a particular goal? That is true that you can accomplish anything you want in life.

You need to believe that you can make the impossible possible through straightforward commitment, consistency, and persistence, with total conviction. Once you have selective goals, you can accomplish them.

Whatever goals (big or small) you have are worth it (such as losing weight, buying a new car, etc., maybe getting a promotion or finding a mate). Whether you want a bigger house or apartment or want to be a big company leader, truly possible if it is what you want to go for them.

This is the most basic principle that no goal is too small. No dream is too big. All need daily motivation and action. Clarity of your heart’s desire matters. You can always tap into your subconsciousness, which will help you find the paths to a successful and happy life.

Believing that you can change your life to get what you want matters. You can start to picture yourself with the most ideal image of accomplishment. How does it feel? You are halfway in your heart’s desire journey if you start formulating your life goals and using your creative imagination to pursue those goals.

Like the most successful leaders and artists throughout history need to follow specific paths to attain their hearts’ desires, you too can do it. With humility and a hopeful standpoint, you keep an open mind and a hopeful outlook. Reciting your daily motivation daily will transform your thinking process into the one you desire. It will be surprisingly amazing to start. Then let the reality catch up.

Offering all those creative acts of your heart’s desires to the universe and being thankful to the Higher Self who guides. Believing that a heart’s desirable path will open before you: One that you don’t necessarily expect, one that you don’t necessarily see at this moment will arrive. The path will help you move forward and find the way in big and small ways. Just Be and Trust. Amen.

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Vigil Mass The Nativity of the Lord 2020

Vigil Mass—The Nativity of the Lord (Christmas)
Isaiah 62:1-5; Psalm 89:4-5, 16-17, 27, 29; Acts 13:16-17, 22-25; Matthew 1:18-25

Totally Keeping Christ Within

Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!
Lights – Candles – Christmas songs/Melodies – Gifts – Families Gathering – Real Happiness! Passion!

Do you aware of the simplest meaning of Christmas!

It is to keep Christ in your heart!
It is to make your heart merciful and merry Christ-mas!

How sad we are if we only see the candles, the lights, hear the music, the songs from the carols, all the prayers and celebrations we have, if we cannot bring Christ into our hearts! If we cannot experience the story of salvation as the reality to change, to transform our lives!

I believe you are not part of people who are “taking “Christ” out of Christmas!”

Christmas is a time to refresh our minds and heart to re-experience God’s intervention into the history of mankind, the history of ours; to restore to the consciousness of life that we have true peace and joy in the forgiveness of sin and freedom from its bondage; to renew in the mind and memory, that Christ as our Savior, is always BE WITH us. Emmanuel. He will never abandon us, especially the ones who welcome HIS LORDSHIP in our lives.

Keep your Christ in your heart, totally!

The message of the angel: “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary, your wife, into your home” is a free invitation to bravely open the heart’s door to cooperate with God’s plan. Joseph here became a key to letting human history be reversed by the only One who can reverse it. He did as the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary and the unborn baby into his home.

Remember, the Gospel has described Joseph as: “He was a just man.”
He was an ordinary person. He was just like Mary. Ordinary!

He was the one who was thinking to spare Mary; he betroths, and yet, was anxious about his reputation of hers. He was looking for the meaning of love and of justice. He was a man who had lots of compassion, forgiveness, and mercy in his heart, a real, genuine, and true gentleman who did not wish to embarrass or punish Mary when he discovered that she was pregnant. He was not hasty to judge or to react with hurt and anger. He totally expressed his love for Mary.

Joseph is an ordinary person. He is just like Mary. Ordinary, who kept his God in his heart totally! Which enabled him to let God penetrate his heart through his dream.

Now, the ordinary person received extraordinary messages!

Only by his total faith was he able to respond to it totally!

Remember: He was a just man! Like Mary, Joseph is a model of faith for us.

Today is Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!

Some of you have come alone tonight; others are with large families. Some of you made plans to be here, and some decided to come on a last-minute impulse. Some of you have had arguments with other family members about something. Some of you have been dragged here against your will. Some of you are mourning the loss of loved ones in the past… many, many of whom you and I remember well and miss very, very much tonight.

For those of you young, tonight is full of hope and anticipation; most of your Christmases are still in front of you. Older people are filled with memories of the Christmases past that will never come again. Some of you look forward to going home to heart, presents, and tree; others dread going home.

Remember, this is a magical night for whoever and whatever condition you are in.
This is learning to keep your re-born Christ in your heart totally! Don’t ever lose him again! Keep him in the most depth of your heart. Let your Christ incarnate tonight in your lives totally! Even when you are in a deep sleep this night.

Let us all celebrate this Christmas, not in a sentimental way. We are visiting Joseph and Mary and their newborn and becoming a part of their family. We do not sing a song or two but join the choir. We do not say a prayer or two but become persons of prayer. We do not exchange gifts, we more than share the gifts with the poor, but we advocate for the poor. We courageously enter the messy, painful, and dangerous, totally absorbing.

Today is Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!

Yeah, when our God enters human history, “in the flesh.”
And we keep our Christ totally in our hearts.

Merry Christ-mas!


DR. Kusnadi

The Protective Mind: Anxiety

Our mind is amazing! The mind is a demanding worry machine. It always wants to protect itself no matter what. Its perfectionist characteristic makes it do a superb job of being a perfect reminder of so many things.

The downside is that the mind never stops looking for problems to protect and cannot be turned off often. It always looks out for you, even when it seems to work against you. Sometimes you can portray the mind as an overbearing, overprotective, and anxious parent who is forever monitoring and meddling but means well (i.e., your safety).

Often, the mind possesses you with worry and fear and then calls to action, which frequently triggers maladaptive thoughts and self-defeating actions. Truly, the mind wants to help you achieve things, but precisely the opposite of what you desire. That is also why the mind floods you with the never-ending stream of thoughts, feelings, and impulse behaviors.

It would be best to remember that the mind acts like a magnet with its poles reversed. It attracts what you hope to avoid and repels what you desire. Hence the mind must follow certain rules, like putting your safety and survival above all else, avoiding danger, and ensuring that your needs are met for “the moment.” Remember, what the mind does is always from the standpoint of safety and survival.

Therefore, being “in the moment” is essential here. If you want to tame your own mind, you need to give the mind a concrete assurance that you are safe and secure now. The ability to be in the present becomes powerful here. Action at the moment is more powerful than many promises.

Now, let this all sink in for a moment. Just for this moment, come back to harmony. Just fill yourself breathing in and fill yourself breathing out. With each breath you inhale and exhale, you feel more and more comfortable, safe, and secure. You are accepted, forgiven, and loved.

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Psychotherapy & Mindfulness-Based Intervention

Psychotherapy and Mindfulness-Based Intervention will help us grow surprisingly. Throughout this process, we learn to understand the pattern of our tendencies to be transformed.

We learn what we are now and what we will do. We choose decisions based on which one is likely the same or/or different in our life (i.e., family, work, and close personal relationships). With this knowledge of ourselves, we will move toward the principle of non-resisting — not resisting ourselves to grow effectively and to embrace the future gratefully.

This means that we know when ‘to act” and when “not to act.” It is because we understand the flow within and around us. We know the best timing for our actions and the consequences. We know and understand that it is unlikely to choose the frame of our “destiny” but what we put it in is ours.

We work with what we have been given. What potential we are given is what we are starting to journey in our lives. This journey is to be the best version of ours.
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Meeting with the “Self” within

Close your eyes. Relax deeply. Visualize that you are going to go to your inner sanctuary. Imagine that you are standing on a path that envisions the future. You may now step into a sacred place within the center of your soul. Start to walk up the path. Be mindful that you are here with a special purpose. Picture yourself and how you enjoy using all senses. Note what you see, hear, smell, feel, and taste.

Now, as you continue to experience all the amazing things, you see your vision of the Higher Self coming toward you in the distance. Radiating clear, bright light. As you approach this vision, see how he/she looks and is dressed, whether male or female. Greet and ask what his/her name is. Take whatever name comes. Spend some time together. Pay attention to how you feel, what is said, or what is exchanged between you. Ask if there is anything he or she would like to say to you. You may ask specific questions.

When the experience together feels complete, thank your Higher Self, your inner guide. When the time right comes, you can express your appreciation and ask him or her to meet you again whenever you desire. Closing this inward journey with your personal prayer.

Now, you come back to harmony and bring all the wisdom from the depth of your soul that tells:

You are safe.
You are accepted.
You are forgiven.
You are loved.

You are a magnificent child of God.

DR. Kusnadi

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The process of becoming

Pay attention to the process of growth. Through it, one will learn true wisdom that “to live” is a constant relating process. The authentic calling is to come out of a shell of isolation and conclusion. The mind must embrace the reality of growing as willing to relate directly yet holding dear values.

The process of becoming then is to seek neither approval nor influence from or to. One needs to be mindful in the path of becoming. The mind and the heart need to learn to surrender the thoughts and feelings of “this is this” or “that is that.” The process then helps both the mind and heart do more reflective questions.

By doing all those processes, one will learn more to continue to grow while being alive in the experiences. There will be no reference to worry or fear about being judged or attached and then getting stuck.

The conclusion is the ultimate act of becoming aware of preparing the self to enter the novel gate of opportunities.
DR. Kusnadi

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Every day is a good day

“Every day is a good day” is a simple statement, but few know its real meaning.

The “good day” does not refer to a nice day compared to a bad one.

It means the absolute, not the relative day.

Today is the absolute day, the only day in the eternity of time.

Today is never repeated. Every day is fresh and new, just as one’s life is new each day.

Every day is good, but the good is not of one’s own making.

It is good in the original or absolute sense—rain or shine, war or peace, sickness or health.

The past is only a reference; the future is the only hope. Today is real.

By Gyomay M. Kubose (Zen Koans)

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