The state of being or Existence is increased by adding responsibility, meaning, and purpose. The state of Existence is more actual by reducing the feeling of isolation; addressing the needs for freedom and belonging.
The anxiety and the fear emerged as the result of the uncertainty in life and looming death (i.e., physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually).
The increased isolation and the lack of responsibility, meaning, and purpose become signs of the looming death. Therefore, it is important to end the anxiety and fear of the unknown by using our capacity with a more positive worldview to make choices (i.e., to take ownership of choices), develop our lives, and maximize our Existence and the reason for being.
The ability to sort things out to choose wisely will benefit one’s life. Repetition with the character strengths of Commitment, Consistent, and Persistent is a very good exercise to cultivate the wanted habit. It is very important if the person can reflect on the contradictory statements without judging right or wrong first based on preconception thoughts.
“My perspective is my reality. I can feel happy and see the good things in daily life if I am happy. When I am positive, I will see positivity in almost everything. I am the planner, to imagine, to fitting things into my perspectives. I am the little creator of my “little life,” so I guide myself down the path I will take. I become like the arrow to point in the direction and to go there wholeheartedly.
As I notice how different one breath to the next, I know it is the same with life. One day, one moment is different from the next — ever-changing, ever-evolving. The “there” and the “here” are happening simultaneously. They are all mysteries of life. Now, I realize that the difficulties mostly happened because my perspectives were probably too static or because I wanted to control them every moment and then subconsciously freeze them to be controlled.
I will probably be much better if I start changing my little perspectives to be more dynamic and grow every moment. The mysteries of life are not problems to solve but to be experienced instead: to learn and unlearn.”
DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
Albert Einstein said, “Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.”
I am adding more to Einstein’s powerful statement that we all must cultivate the awareness that every day always brings new opportunities and choices. So, it is important to be aware of assessing and exercising character strengths to make better, happier, and more measurable decisions. Then, learn to surrender that the Universe will persist in helping, things are in-permanent.
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC