The power of “LITTLE HEALTHY CURIOSITY” and the ability to “DO IT” are ingredients to increase a happier lifestyle. That little curiosity and the “do it” manifest the willingness to enter into the unfamiliar territories of life, learn to explore the “fun” of them, and continue expecting more “discoveries.”
When you add “healthy curiosity” with the sense of “wonder and awe,” you can embrace the little aspect of life’s mystery, bringing more life-fulfillment and continuing yearning or wanting to do more. You will never regret your life because your life is lively, full of colors, and you find beauty in each of them.
The extreme disruption made people aware that there was something wrong. Here, the disruption enables them to notice the extreme random thoughts. In that situation, people often believe that they are not safe and in a chaotic situation. That is why solitude is frequently experienced as a disruption of real life that is often experienced as busy, messy, and cluttered.
In the solitudes, the slowing down mind forces to see and experience the small ripple and the giant wave of emotions—this experience could lead to terrifying feelings because of the sudden awareness that there are so many thoughts and unfamiliar emotions in a second or a minute. The abrupt with no continuous stimulation triggers and exacerbates the hysteria. Solitude becomes frightening when there is no grasp to relinquish the fight within.
So, it is important, as we’re breathing, we need to take a moment and learn to adapt, adjust, and get used to the solitudes. Then, we can find the enlightenment way of being, understanding, and responding to whatever challenges ahead. The longer we cultivate the non-grasping thoughts and emotions, the freer we will be. We are no longer confined or imprisoned by our suppositional thoughts and maladaptive emotions.
We, then, begin to notice that life is the realization of its contingency. We learn that life is perpetual transcendence, always moving into the future and creating the present. In so many ways, life is also the acceptance of finitude and responsibilities to care, love, and grow. Life is a calling to make better and greater humanity and a more wonderful universe.
If we look back at the dynamic between the disruption and the regularity, we learn that life is neither fixed nor absolute, ambiguous. Instead, life is full of possibilities that are entailed by existence. So what does this all mean? Certainly that the choices we make daily transform life itself. The choices bear the creative process that leads the mind and heart to embrace the aesthetic experience of the world. We can experience the world as both rich and beautiful through this process.
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC
We have between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts thoughts a day that we don’t notice. We believe them. We swim through our thoughts like a fish swims through water. We don’t even notice how we think and sense. We don’t notice the colors and the sights around us.
The most interesting part, we often notice the thoughts that we don’t like. What is really going on is because we don’t like those thoughts. We want to avoid, to fix them. But, somehow, we don’t know what to do with them. So we struggle against them, and we start to think that it is impossible to win. We feel hopelessness and helplessness. We get trapped, and the worst we feel we can’t breathe.
Here’s the bottom line, the more we fight, the loser we will be and the stronger those thoughts are, and the more disordered we are.
The catastrophic thoughts preoccupied the thoughts then triggered disproportionate maladaptive emotions. We obsessively struggle against those thoughts and get stuck in an endless loop of overthinking. The struggle doesn’t get better because the struggle becomes a robust sponger that terrifies the soul and disables, steals our total discretion, and depletes energy.
Now, if you can feel a strong connection to the described facts above, then it is time to STOP, BREATHE, and THINK of all the ways you can; to IGNITE the STOP commands to convey critical thinking.
You can pull up a “chair” of your core and imagine yourself mastering five ways to surrender:
(1) Don’t suppress the thoughts that you don’t like. STOP and divert your attention away from the thoughts above. STOP and do things that help your thoughts, NOT following the default. STOP and tell yourself to do creative, active activities, such as listening to an Audiobook, doing a Crossword puzzle, or trying to solve Sudoku, Cryptograms, or Word Searches.
(2) The intrusive thoughts are different than reality. It is worthy of being able to STOP to recognize their differences. Be mindful to STOP asking the questions with “what if….” Instead, be mindful of the reality of the now and continue building a stronger connection with the present moment. STOP and TRUST that you are alright and will be okay, that you will be better and have a better future. Those are necessary.
(3) Identify the triggers. Often, your thoughts are not entirely random, and your day-to-day interactions may influence them. STOP questions and START keeping a journal of the thoughts that you don’t want. Then, STOP and ask yourself how to understand patterns of those thoughts over time. By doing this, you exercise mastery, becoming a master for your thoughts.
(4) Transform the lifestyle wholeheartedly. STOP and picture what your life will be if you develop positive changes in your daily routine. Then, STOP and COMMIT to what you already planned and CONSISTENT to enforce the choices that you already made to better you. Finally, STOP and understand that following the transforming alternatives will be worthwhile.
(5) Talk it out will give you new insight and healing. You do not rule out therapy because it is proven beneficial. STOP and think about what is noteworthy to your life now. STOP and BE IN THE PRESENT. STOP and be mindful when you are breathing. STOP and implant these words in your brain:
I choose to let go and surrender. I visualize the boat turning around to a better life direction, the “me” dropping the oars, and floating downstream happily through the scenic surroundings and the fresh air. All is well. All is well.
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC
I am now in the depth of my mind. I take a breath and relax. This moment is my space and mine alone. So, I create a room in my mind and heart. It is a sacred workshop room for my soul. Through this breathing, I am one with myself. I am no longer racing from one thought to the next, no longer following the default.
Here’s the fact for me: The less is more, and the fewer doubt and negative thoughts I have, the more value I have to my thoughts and emotions. Therefore, I have liberty, and I am free now. My mind and heart are clear because I welcome both of them. My thoughts no longer fight against me. My heart and mind are in harmony. That is wonderful.
Now, it is time to breathe peace, calm, and still. Opportunities and better possibilities are always there, here, and now. I am. I am safe and one with myself. I welcome opportunities and better possibilities. Because of that, opportunities and better possibilities always come to embrace. Certainly, I can feel that this is the meaning of living with abundance.
I am mindful of my inner guide and talk with my inner guide more often and more intimately. I am thankful because I have everything in my sacred workshop room. So, I create and recreate creatively; I embrace and re-embrace, passionately, and illuminate myself to be better, healthier, happier, and worthier every day in my life. I am certain this is the glorious responsibility, given.
I am all the qualities, tools, and resources that make all possible in every instance. I truly live with abundance. I am precious, and human life is precious. I am worthy and human life is worthy. I appreciate what I already have, including all the opportunities and better possibilities that I can choose. I continue to believe that I become who & what I think “about” because I care “about.” As I think “about” and care “about,” so I become “about” the one whom I choose to become as the best version of mine that values precious life. The better and the best are always yet to come! My answer is, “Amen.”
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC
It is important to know that most people do not consider all potentially relevant information when making judgments and decisions. Instead, they mostly rely on a subset of information that is most accessible in that situation.
That is the reason why social media has become so powerful today. However, it is important to highlight that the “accessibility” actually is not random but reflects dispositional of the person, which then is manipulated with the algorithm.
People do not rely blindly on accessible information in many situations. On the contrary, they have a strong tendency to filter in and out the information and then lock into the only relevant information that is more likely to represent their judgmental target. That is the reason why unconscious judgments are often highly effective.
Moreover, there is a negative or contrasting relationship between the implications of accessible information and the resulting judgment. The more information individuals consider for a judgment; the less influence is exerted by any given piece of accessible information.
As the result of this dynamic process attaining the information, the therapy process needs to be dialectical, which leads to recreating the new awareness that will have the power to illuminate the unconscious process that sometimes is not controllable. The dialectical process of therapy will offer more options and opportunities to consider, leading to a liberating internal dynamic process.
Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC
Christmas and New Year are here. It is time to reflect on the experiences. You will envision your life when you can reflect on the trial and the tribulation of life.
Trial and tribulation are the pathways that make you stronger and even better. After some time, you will know that the positives come from the negatives.
Amazingly, the reflections envision seeing the trail and the tribulation as the pathways that help move beyond the horizon of limitation. They support you to move beyond the pain, fear, failure, guilt, and sadness so many times.
You probably feel that you are living in the darkness during that time. But, actually, as long as you trust and listen to your inner wisdom and always listen, you move beyond fear to hope and love—That is the meaning of Christmas!
The path will protect and guide you until you become the “you” that you choose to be— That is your legacy in this life!
Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
“It is okay not to be okay with failure; it is okay to give myself permission not to love failure, which means it is okay to feel safe with failure because failures help liberate, motivate, teach to be better and be more successful. Because my success is not about action being right but about consistently making better actions by learning from failures and moving forward. It is okay that I don’t have to fear failure! Just be cautious and be thoughtful!”
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
The key to success is the view that success is about learning. Seized the chance becomes the path of growing up. Persons with a fixed mindset think oppositely. They bother too much about being exposed to their insufficiencies. Because of that, they choose to feel smart in the short run. Their behavior is actually to hide or run away from challenges. Their rationalizing is bigger than the courageous heart. That is why they choose to become non-learners and pretend to be happy and satisfied with their lives.
Interestingly, they show no interest in the new information that could help them learn and grow—Vive versa, persons with a growth mindset respond differently. They will pay close attention to the new information that could expand their knowledge and see possibilities. They can process the information with the knowledge that the impossible thoughts could be possible. They view learning as a priority in life. Possibilities exist in every angle of life. It takes only 20 seconds of courage. Life is to grow, and to grow, is to take measurable risks and be happy with all the results. Results of the decision become powerful feedback to adapt and adjust new ways of being, understanding, and intervening.
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
It is safe to feel safe to be happy to live happily to be able to take care of yourself to carefree to have bigger dreams to have creative aspirations to have adventure spirit to experience the unknown to grow and be better to release anxiety and fear to breathe easily to let go of things that hold you back to release doubts to be blessed to live in abundance to release all the tightness in your chest to embrace the unworthiness to feel worthy and good enough to set yourself free to have a plan and to be responsible to live a healthy lifestyle indeed it is safe certainly, it is safe
DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC