The Magical Process of Becoming

The total of our being (i.e., existence) is like the seed of a plant or a tree. Things that happening throughout days as the rain of fertilizer that grows the twigs, leaves, flowers, and fruits. The fruits then bear seeds.

The most potent and remarkable fact is that even though we think about our being with the dichotomy thinking process (the division of one whole idea, thought, or concept into two separate and unrelated ideas), the actual happening is inseparable.

The process of becoming has no duality. In the fruits, there are seeds. The seeds, even though unseen, actually produce roots, stalks, and so on.

With particular and enough freedom, all of them grow plenty and lavishness. There is an abundance of continuity and discontinuity processes that is beyond discussion. It is abundant because the whole process is not void in time. The past and present together are welcoming and embracing the future. The total being is happening in one miraculous unfolding of life.

There is the reason why we need to just reflect on when the time has come. The total being is manifest before us in realtime, causes and circumstances. All the happening is always matters and has hidden and magical untold purpose and meaning.

DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC
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Mantra for transformation

 

Relax, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Every breath helps you to sink more deeply into a quiet place inside yourself. This is the source of sacred-tranquility. Now you can gently and passionately recite this mantra:

“I will discover a new image of myself that I have been longing for so long. My awareness tells me that I am indeed apart of this universe. I experience calm and healing. I trust myself more and more confident. I gently follow the inner guidance as I feel strong and courageous.

In a moment, I find out that I carry a sense of knowingness with me into the world. Amazingly, I can envision myself having more trust to be more focused within and surrender at the same time. I begin to experience that my world is nourishing to myself and others.

I discover what I have created on the outside actually is much more beautiful and wonderful than I have ever thought because of this remarkable passion. My commitment to the universe is winsome.” Amen.

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The Power of Doubt & Distrust

In life, when the truth is told, you could experience either trust, doubt, or distrust. The differences between doubt and distrust need to be explained.

Doubt and distrust are not the same. Many people get confused about them, and they think they are the same. No, they are not the same. Doubt is about uncertainty. It is unsure. It is about knowing that something is happening but not knowing exactly what is going on. Distrust means condemning the whole thing. The worse is there is no willingness to open up or learn about such things. One already made up his/her mind. There is a certainty or final decision in distrust.

Doubt could have multiple directions, such as toward positivity or negativity. One who has doubt with positivity direction and being process with positive belief systems will lead to the capability to see opportunities and grow—the possibilities to experience a deep sense of wonder and awe that scents the internal and external exploration.

Doubt with the support of the facts and the clarity of evidence will become reasonable doubt. Reasonable doubt powers the journey further, with confidence and with a sense of purpose and responsibilities.

Unreasonable doubt happens when doubt being processed by the maladaptive thought processes, such as “All or Nothing Thinking,” “Overgeneralization,” and “Catastrophizing.” Through this negative processing, doubt who is now transforming into unreasonable doubt, becomes an existential distrust.

When one sees his/her life through this existential distrust lenses, life could be a curse, a never-ending suffering, or a never-ending defeat and debacle—life is experienced as a continuous catastrophe, paralyzing and totally saddening. At this point, one has no way of stepping out of his/her discursive thoughts, no way of stepping out of his/her ego fixation and grasping because one is so caught up in that particular preoccupation.

The necessary intervention is needed when one is rendering doubt with lenses of maladaptive thought processings. Right at that moment, with well-trained mindfulness practices, one can question the process of thinking, exploring the supporting and not supporting facts with rational evidence. Through this process, one needs to pause, stop, and breathe first while learning to let go of his/her preoccupation thoughts.

Furthermore, one needs to learn to take in his/her own pain and put his/her awareness into the rest of the world’s pain. Surprisingly, one will expand his/her knowledge and heart and further reinforce this noble gesture, leading him/her out from the preoccupation of negative thoughts and emotions.

What does this all mean? It is about how one can liberate his/herself from the potential of self-defeating thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

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The mastery process to liberate

The seeds of mindfulness can flourish when one has devoted time tirelessly and happily to prepare his/her internal rich soil. One needs to have the confidence to mastery that through certain attitudes and mental qualities, happy life will prevail. The acts of cultivating and nurturing, along with the rhythm of life, are necessary.

In this process, one purposefully is tilling the soil of his/her own mind to shape character. In this mastery process, one perfects clarity and certainty every day. The process becomes the source of compassion and the right actions, replacing the confusion and maligned thoughts. Endurance then becomes the key here to liberate. As the old saying said, “when you learn or/and practice to love your life, life will love you all the way.”
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Understanding the negative internal process

The thoughts that manifest from the unsafe and unstable sense of self that yearns to be protected produce a deep affliction feeling. This affliction feeling has great tendencies to repeat the irrational fear, sadness, and anxiety — with repetition and compulsions, that internal dynamic became psychological and emotional disorder.

At that state, one will try hard to defend him/herself against the unwanted events and feelings. Furthermore, there will be a strong tendency to hold on to a certain fondness, which is maladaptive. Automatically the mind filters in only to the favorite ones. These conditions easily lead to overwhelming experiences of despair, anxiety, and sadness, as well as compulsions and addictions.
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Bells and Robes

Zen Master Unmon said: “The world is vast and wide. Why do you put on your robes at the sound of a bell?”

There is an old saying that whatever comes in through the gates is foreign. The gates are the senses: sight, smell, hearing, taste, and touch. If we decide, move, and act by the senses, we obey foreign commands. In response to our environment, we feel pressured, are easily upset, become nervous. This is one of the characteristics of modern life. But if one settles down firmly in one’s inner life, all actions, feelings, and deeds come from deep within. The unenlightened one does things because he must do them; the enlightened one acts because he wants to. Freedom lies in the center of life — Zen Master Unmon points to the center.
[Zen Koans by Venerable Gyomay M. Kubose]

 

When the ultimate crisis comes…

When the ultimate crisis comes. When it seems, there is no way out. Authentic faith tells that it is the time to learn to surrender, let go of internal mind struggle, and tap the untapped reservoir of overflowing grace.

It is a very humbling reality to acknowledge that one needs to surrender first to solve the ultimate problem. Surprisingly, the Infinite Origin Force automatically will teach about the need to well up beyond reason, rational expectation, or hope to experience enlightenment. Through tranquility of mind and heart, one can mindfully experience the actualization process within. It happens when supposition replaces opposition and when the paradox teaches the internal vocation of how to be the best version of the self in the daily decision.

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What shall I, a poor man, do?

The rich will make temples for Shiva. What shall I, a poor man, do? My legs are pillars, my body a shrine, my head a cupola of gold.

Listen, O Lord of the meeting rivers, things standing shall fall but the moving shall ever stay. Make of my body the beam of a lute, of my head the sounding gourd, of my nerves the strings, of my fingers the plucking rods.

Clutch me close and play your thirty-two songs, O Lord of the meeting rivers.

— Basavanna, Medieval Hindu Poet

 

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Walking across the “sacred high” bridge

Every kind of life has pain or problems. That is the reason why the ability to find a quality of presence is kind of a must. By learning to breathe mindfully, the mind and heart are naturally open to the moment, then to see, feel, and find the truth concealed in it. A greater unity within then happens surprisingly. As the mind with heart continues to pay attention closer to the happenings, the subconscious mind will be honest to the self — articulately speak the truth within.

The amazing part is when the mind with heart notices that things that used to be stressful are less and less stressful. The healing process is then happening….  walking across the “sacred high” bridge to be in the “Otherness” becomes the honest, humble articulation from the simultaneous deep desire within for becoming. Because the joy within is excessive, then wouldn’t want to enjoy it alone but wants to tell everyone about this majestic experience. Let this all sink in for a moment… Just be in the moment… to rejoice and to praise.

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In The Path of Breathing

Take a moment—gentle breath with senses. Be mindful of the exhale. Notice how good it feels at this moment. Reignite hope and nurture it through the tranquility mind and heart. Let the positivity and the more joy penetrating the being to the point — when the perception and perspective become living lens and senses. Let the inner movement guides to articulate the purpose and meaning inward and outward — then let what you see in, and you experience become abundant blessings that transform and heal…

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