The seeds of mindfulness can flourish when one has devoted time tirelessly and happily to prepare his/her internal rich soil. One needs to have the confidence to mastery that through certain attitudes and mental qualities, happy life will prevail. The acts of cultivating and nurturing, along with the rhythm of life, are necessary.
In this process, one purposefully is tilling the soil of his/her own mind to shape character. In this mastery process, one perfects clarity and certainty every day. The process becomes the source of compassion and the right actions, replacing the confusion and maligned thoughts. Endurance then becomes the key here to liberate. As the old saying said, “when you learn or/and practice to love your life, life will love you all the way.”
DR. Rony Kusnadi
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
The thoughts that manifest from the unsafe and unstable sense of self that yearns to be protected produce a deep affliction feeling. This affliction feeling has great tendencies to repeat the irrational fear, sadness, and anxiety — with repetition and compulsions, that internal dynamic became psychological and emotional disorder.
At that state, one will try hard to defend him/herself against the unwanted events and feelings. Furthermore, there will be a strong tendency to hold on to a certain fondness, which is maladaptive. Automatically the mind filters in only to the favorite ones. These conditions easily lead to overwhelming experiences of despair, anxiety, and sadness, as well as compulsions and addictions.
DR. Rony Kusnadi
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
Zen Master Unmon said: “The world is vast and wide. Why do you put on your robes at the sound of a bell?”
There is an old saying that whatever comes in through the gates is foreign. The gates are the senses: sight, smell, hearing, taste, and touch. If we decide, move, and act by the senses, we obey foreign commands. In response to our environment, we feel pressured, are easily upset, become nervous. This is one of the characteristics of modern life. But if one settles down firmly in one’s inner life, all actions, feelings, and deeds come from deep within. The unenlightened one does things because he must do them; the enlightened one acts because he wants to. Freedom lies in the center of life — Zen Master Unmon points to the center.
[Zen Koans by Venerable Gyomay M. Kubose]
When the ultimate crisis comes. When it seems, there is no way out. Authentic faith tells that it is the time to learn to surrender, let go of internal mind struggle, and tap the untapped reservoir of overflowing grace.
It is a very humbling reality to acknowledge that one needs to surrender first to solve the ultimate problem. Surprisingly, the Infinite Origin Force automatically will teach about the need to well up beyond reason, rational expectation, or hope to experience enlightenment. Through tranquility of mind and heart, one can mindfully experience the actualization process within. It happens when supposition replaces opposition and when the paradox teaches the internal vocation of how to be the best version of the self in the daily decision.
Every kind of life has pain or problems. That is the reason why the ability to find a quality of presence is kind of a must. By learning to breathe mindfully, the mind and heart are naturally open to the moment, then to see, feel, and find the truth concealed in it. A greater unity within then happens surprisingly. As the mind with heart continues to pay attention closer to the happenings, the subconscious mind will be honest to the self — articulately speak the truth within.
The amazing part is when the mind with heart notices that things that used to be stressful are less and less stressful. The healing process is then happening…. walking across the “sacred high” bridge to be in the “Otherness” becomes the honest, humble articulation from the simultaneous deep desire within for becoming. Because the joy within is excessive, then wouldn’t want to enjoy it alone but wants to tell everyone about this majestic experience. Let this all sink in for a moment… Just be in the moment… to rejoice and to praise.
Take a moment—gentle breath with senses. Be mindful of the exhale. Notice how good it feels at this moment. Reignite hope and nurture it through the tranquility mind and heart. Let the positivity and the more joy penetrating the being to the point — when the perception and perspective become living lens and senses. Let the inner movement guides to articulate the purpose and meaning inward and outward — then let what you see in, and you experience become abundant blessings that transform and heal…
Misconception about happiness is common. We convince ourselves that life will be better if we have a larger home, a nicer car, a corner office. We tell ourselves we’ll be happier if we are married, or if we are singles, or if we have children, or if we get divorced. We tell ourselves that life will be better once we finish a difficult task at work, or perhaps when we change jobs altogether.
The truth, as we are constantly shown, is that life is always full of challenges. Happiness doesn’t suddenly, permanently envelops us when we’ve completed a task or cleared an obstacle. At some point, we must admit to ourselves that these tasks and obstacles are life and decide to be happy despite them.
Is there a solution to this universal problem?
There is, in a single verse in the Bhagavadgita (V.23):
“Only he who can keep in control here itself the pressure mounted by desire and anger can be happy; he is a true yogin.”
This formula for happiness is brief, crisp, and lucid, with no ambiguity. If we learn to govern our passions, we can be happy here and now. Transforming the old core belief system is a must. The difficulty is in the consistent and persistent daily implementation, which often we need support and guidance.
If the eye is clear, our body will be full of light. When our attention is receptive and accepting, everything we see may become an object of meditation, a teaching source.
Even the most difficult and painful feelings and emotions can become teachers and companions for us as we experience they are arising in the present.
There is wisdom from the fifteenth-century poet, “When the eyes and ears are open, even the leaves on the trees teach like pages from the scriptures.”
Where shall we place our attention? As we move through the days of our lives, how shall we keep our eyes clear, our hearts open, and our spirits alive and awake in the present moment? If we find ourselves thinking all day about whether or not we are loved, or how we can protect ourselves from danger, or how we can impress others with our skills and achievements, then we are condemned to languish in a prison of our own making.
Where we look and how we see gives birth to the kind of life we will live. If we see the only danger, we live in fear; if we seek what is gentle and true, we will find ourselves on a path of serenity and peace.
The body is always breathing, and the breath is constantly moving. Your breath is not only the best place to start; it’s a constant you can return to anytime you need a little centering.
In this first practice, you will gently find the breath in the body. There is nothing to figure out, there are no problems to solve, and there’s nothing special you need to do. Constantly return to your direct experience of the body breathing. You are training the mind to be with one experience without distraction.