Month: May 2016

 These questions will help you to determine how much of a worrier you are.

1. Do many things worry you every day since you wake up?
2. Do you make problems larger, not smaller?
3. Do you worry, even during happy times or joyful moments?
4. Do your worry preoccupy your mind, and you can’t stop it, though you try hard?
5. Do you worry about many things that most people around you do not worry about?
6. When one worry is solved, do you immediately focus on another?

Your worry plays a large role if you answered yes to all six questions. The fewer yeses, the better and healthier you are. You have a moderate level of worry if you answered three to four yeses and a low level of worry if you only have one yes. Worry, a mental part of anxiety, can create anxiety thoughts, indicated by “what if…” or focus on “what might happen…”

Therefore, the more yeses you have, the more excessively worried you are, which means you build up maladaptive anxiety thoughts.  Your anxiety thoughts become chronic or disorder when they interfere and disable your daily life.

Here are the dynamics: (1) worry becomes anxiety thoughts, (2) anxiety thoughts provoke unrealistic fears, (3) fears are strengthened and become progressive, especially when those are parallel or matching with past happenings, (4) the past happenings apparent at the present moment as a feeling of doom, unease, or apprehensive which are continuously lingering in mind, and go beyond the real danger itself, and (5) fears then generate disorderly panic because of the experiences of steep terror from the uncertainties.

You will be amazed when you realize how, in this case, the objects of your “fears” are unclear. Realities and irrealities are then indistinguishable. Body and emotions react strongly to give a response to fight or to flight.  But if you decide to fight, the questions are, who or what will you fight? And how are you going to fight?

The “enemies” are not there, and yet they are there in the thoughts. They are expressed through your emotions and body reactions. Your thoughts are your “enemies.” Your mind is the racing field of disordered thoughts. You then accumulate and hoard more and more anxieties by being anxious with your anxious mind, and your anxious mind is anxious to be unable to stop being anxious.

If you come to this point, perhaps you need professional help. With properly organized and holistic (i.e., medical, psychological, and spiritual) interventions by the well-trained therapist, you learn to regain power over your anxious thoughts. Don’t wait any longer. You will then learn to be a warrior rather than a worrier in the therapeutic journey.

 

“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow; our life is the creation of our mind.”

So many spiritual and psychological approaches endeavor to guide and support people to live healthier and happier. They look different from one another, but they share a fundamental similarity. They want to help you who are experiencing the disconnected self to rediscover your essential self.

The fundamental aim of therapy sessions with all its intervention modalities is to aid clients in developing and strengthening their inner capabilities to uncage themselves. Clients learn to undo their mental stubbornness to free themselves from the internal void. The internal void often tells them that they don’t belong to anybody and have to roam the wild world by him/herself only.

People with this outsized deepest void have been yearning since their earliest childhood to seek trustful connection and, most of the time, feel betrayed and rejected. This condition becomes a striking journey of love and hates simultaneously, which stationed anger and rage in the middle. Some of them who were unable to manage this dynamic reported that they were kind of experiencing nervous breakdowns. They felt like they lost control over their feelings of worry, nervousness, fear, anxiety, and depression. They were trembling, fast thinking, shortness of breath, nausea, irritability, and rage with a rapid heartbeat.

As they examined their lives in therapy, they found a startling reality that they were chronic self-saboteurs. They were controlled strongly by their social-self part, which decided what kind of person they had to become, where they had to go, and which way to choose. They lost themselves because what others think, see, feel, say, and do became the most matter in their lives, and without knowing, they hold those beliefs dearly.

Through the therapeutic journey, they found that their “self-sabotage” was in harmony with their essential desires. The experienced therapy process had freed them from the internal void: to voice the voiceless, to unmask the faceless, and to unlearn the old paths of thinking and believing.

Amazingly, you had the same approximately 60,000 thoughts yesterday and the same one we had the day before. These thoughts become a steady flow of thinking, which turns out to be a thick filter between our thoughts and feelings, our head and heart. They repeatedly influence your ways of being, understanding, and interpreting/translating reality. They shade your ways of responding to certain stimuli.

These thoughts flow based on a set of core beliefs acquired throughout your life. Incredibly those thoughts flow from particular beliefs that automatically give a good reason for “who you are, who are others, the surroundings, where is your place in the relationship and in the world.”

Pick a short story about something that happened to you today (“the incident”). Be aware of what happened inside you in the past week before today’s story unfolded.

When you are ready, sit and allow that story to come to mind. Write it down when the first emotion speaks. At this point, you can draw, paint, or find any other simple activity that can reflect what happened.

The most important thing is to connect all the events with specific sensory details so you can experience the whole story (before, in the moment, and after the incident) by observing them carefully. Remember to leave out the commentary, the judgments, or the insights because this is not its time yet.

You just describe what happened. You become like a lotus flower sitting in the water of your thoughts and emotions but not getting wet. Or, you just like sitting in the movie theatre and watching your story, and then you rewrite its script. Now, it is time to ask these questions, and it would be better if you could write the answers in the script under the parentheses.

What did I feel?

What did each of the people involved feel?

How did the feelings unfold?

What kind of thoughts made me or others feel that way (a week before, in the moment of the incident, and after the incident)?

And, now, you imagine yourself telling that story to an elder, a wise old man or woman, your therapist or counselor, and then listening while this person tells you the story’s meaning for your life. What does this person say?

As a final point, express your gratitude by writing a testimonial regarding how much you have been transformed by practicing this exercise so that people who read your testimonial will also be transformed. You are a miracle.

Probably will be a brilliant activity when we have time to answer the following questions for one to three minutes each in the morning:

Who are you? I am …

Where did you come from? I came from …

Where are you going? I am going …

Why are you here? I am here …

Let emblematic images take the place of flesh-out abstract ideas. Let the images come alive so that you can touch, smell, taste, hear, see, and feel. Let yourself flows in the breath of the universe, in the sacred mind of the cosmos, and in the loving heartbeat of the Ultimate Power.

Let the compassionate “dance” between the inner outer world, and imaginations move you as you begin again and again to painting, writing, composing, moving, filming, or/and photograph.

As you start learning to unlearn ~ to empty yourself ~ you let the “melody,” the “sound,” and the “voice” of the Universe teach: to “sit,” to notice judgments, to breathe, to keep sitting, to feel the heartbeat, to communicate with the “self” and to let God in ~ giving very unique and incredible blessings.

You then affirm humbly with trust and confidence as a no-limit person before the Ultimate One. You do this because you carry the highest possible given mission for a better and greater world, with loving, respect, justice, and honor toward one another.

Condition to experience deeper mystery of humanity

while embracing the Ultimate Mystery