Are you a worrier or warrior?

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 These questions will help you to determine how much of a worrier you are.

  1. Do many things worry you every day since you wake up in the morning?
  2. Do you make problems larger not smaller?
  3. Do you worry even during happy times or joyful moments?
  4. Do your worry preoccupied your mind and you can’t stop it, though you try hard?
  5. Do you worry about many things that most people around you do not worry about?
  6. When one worry is solved, do you immediately focus on another?

Your worry plays a very large role if you answered yeses to all six questions. The less yeses the better and healthier you are. You have moderate level of worry if you answered three to four yeses and a low level of worry if you only have one yes. Worry, which is a mental part of anxiety, is able to create anxiety thoughts, indicated by “what if…” or focus on “what might happen…”

Therefore, the more yeses you have the more excessive worrier you are, which mean the more you build up maladaptive anxiety thoughts.  Your anxiety thoughts then become chronic or disorder when they interfere and disabling your daily life.

Here are the dynamics: (1) worry becomes anxiety thoughts, (2) anxiety thoughts provoke unrealistic fears, (3) fears are strengthened and become progressive especially when those are parallel or matching with the past happenings, (4) the past happenings apparent at the present moment as a feeling of doom, unease, or apprehensive which are continuously lingering in mind, and go beyond the real danger itself, and (5) fears then generate disorderly panic because of the experiences of steep terror from the uncertainties.

You will amaze when you realize how in this case, the objects of your “fears” are actually unclear. Realities and irrealities are then indistinguishable. Body and emotions react strongly to give response to fight or to flight.  But if you decide to fight then the questions are, who or what are you going to fight? and how are you going to fight?

The “enemies” are not there and yet they are there in the thoughts. They are expressed through your emotions and body reactions. Your thoughts are your “enemies.” Your mind is the racing field of the disorder thoughts. You then accumulate and hoard more and more anxieties, by being anxious with your anxious mind, and your anxious mind anxious to unable stop of being anxious.

If you come to this point perhaps you need professional help. With a properly organize and holistic (i.e., medical, psychological, and spiritual) interventions by well trained therapist you learn to regain power over your anxiety thoughts. Don’t wait any longer. You then will learn to be a warrior than worrier in the therapeutic journey.

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Reconnecting with the Essential-Self

“What we are today comes from out thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow; our life is the creation of our mind”

 

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There are so many spiritual and psychological approaches that endeavor to guide and to support people in order to live healthier and happier. They look like different to one another but actually they share fundamental similarity. They want to help you who are experiencing the disconnected self to rediscover your essential self.

The fundamental aim of therapy sessions with all its intervention modalities is to aid clients to develop and strengthen their inner capabilities in order to uncage themselves. Clients learn to undo their mental stubbornness to free themselves from the internal void. The internal void that often tells them that they don’t belong to anybody and has to roam the wild world by him/herself only.

People who have this outsized deepest void have been yearning since the earliest childhood to seek trustful connection and yet most of the time feel betrayed and rejected. This condition becomes a striking journey of love and hate at the same time which stationed anger and rage in the middle. Some of them who were unable to manage this dynamic reported that they were kind experiencing nervous breakdown. They felt like lose control over their feelings of worry, nervousness, fear, anxiety, and depressed. They were trembling, fast thinking, shortness of breath, nausea, irritability, and rage with rapid heartbeat.

As they examined their lives in the therapy process, they found a startling reality that actually they were chronic self-saboteurs. They were controlled strongly by their social-self part who decided what kind of persons they had to become, where they had to go and which way they had to chose. They lost themselves because what others’ think, see, feel, say, and do became the most matter in their lives; and without knowingly they hold those beliefs dearly.

Through the therapeutic journey they found that their “self-sabotage” was actually in harmony with their essential desires. They experienced therapy process had freed them from the internal void: to voice the voiceless, to unmask the faceless, and to unlearn the old paths of thinking and believing.

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60,000 thoughts per day

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 How many thoughts per day does the average person have?

50,000-70,000 which approximately around 60,000 per day. When we have between 50,000-70,000 thoughts per day, this means between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute per person. The steady flow of thinking is a thick filter between our thoughts and feelings, our head and heart.

Amazingly, you had the same approximately 60,000 thoughts yesterday and the same one we had the day before. These thoughts become a steady flow of thinking, which turn out to be a thick filter between our thoughts and feelings, between out head and heart. They repeatedly influence your ways of being, understanding, and interpreting/translating the reality. They shade your ways to response to certain stimuli.

These thoughts flow based on a set of core beliefs that have been acquired over the course of your life. Incredibly those thoughts flow from particular beliefs that automatically give good reason for “who you are, who are others, the surroundings, where is your place in the relationship and in the world.”

“I can’t do anything right” “I’m inferior to others. I’m not as intelligent or capable as they are” “The world is dangerous. I’m not safe” “Love hurts, protect yourself” “When problem arise, don’t look, don’t feel, run away” “Winning is what counts” “People won’t see me if I’m wearing this brand of clothes/bag” “I have no power” “Nobody love me. I’m worthless. Nobody wants me” “Nobody can be trusted. You can’t trust anyone”

Probably you can expect what kind of thoughts will flow from one of the beliefs above. Think about this, if you have a belief that “the world is dangerous and you are not safe” then what kind of thoughts will flow from that belief? What kind of feelings will you have when you meet with people? How is your body reactions when someone comes to you?

Again you have approximately 60,000 thoughts every day. So you probably need to learn your own thoughts’ pattern which then lead you to understand more where those thoughts came from.

That is the reason, you need a well trained, a professional, a therapist that is able to assist you to identify your core beliefs system. In the therapy process, you and your therapist will examine your thoughts. You learn to sorting out, to categorizing, and to developing more alternative thoughts. The therapeutic activities alter specific targeted beliefs system. In the process you will grow and be transformed. You will be better and healthier as who you want to be. You go to the direction of your inner calling.



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Overcoming the big self-fraud

 

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Pick an actual short story about something that happened to you today (“the incident”). Be aware also with what happened inside you in the past week before today story unfold.

When you are ready, sit for a moment and allow that story to come to mind. Write it down when the first emotion speaks. At this point actually you can draw, paint, or find any other simple activity that is able to reflect the things that had happened.

The most important thing is to connect all the events with specific sensory details so you can experience the whole story (before the incident, in the moment of the incident, after the incident), by observing them carefully. Remember to leave out the commentary, the judgments, or the insights because this is not its time yet.

You just describe what happened. You become like a lotus flower who is sitting in the water of your thoughts and emotions but not getting wet. Or, you just like sitting in the movie theatre and are watching your own story and then you rewrite its script. Now, it is time to ask these questions and better if you able to write the answers in the script under the parentheses.

What did I feel?

What did each of the people involved feel?

How did the feelings unfold?

What kind of thoughts that made me or others felt that way (a week before the incident, in the moment of the incident, and after the incident)?

And, now you are imagining yourself telling that story to an elder, a wise old man or woman, your therapist or counselor, and then listening while this person tells you the meaning of the story for your life. What does this person say?

As a final point, express your gratitude by writing a testimonial regarding how much you have been transformed by practicing this exercise so that people who read your testimonial will be transformed as well. You are a miracle.

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Mount of Consciousness # 03

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Probably will be a brilliant activity when we have time to answer these following questions for one to three minutes each in the morning:

Who are you? I am …

Where did you come from? I came from …

Where are you going? I am going …

Why are you here? I am here …

Let emblematic images take the place of flesh out abstract ideas. Let the images come alive so that you can touch, smell, taste, hear, see, and feel. Let yourself flows in the breathe of the universe, in the sacred mind of the cosmos, and in the loving heartbeat of the Ultimate Power.

Let the compassionate “dance” between the inner, outer world, and imaginations move you, as you begin again and again to painting, writing, composing, moving, filming, or/and photographing.

As you start learning to unlearn ~ to empty yourself ~ you let the “melody,” the “sound,” and the “voice” of the Universe teaches: to “sit”, to notice judgments, to breathe, to keep sitting, to feel the heartbeat, to communicate with the “self” and to let God in ~ giving very unique and incredible blessings.

You then affirm humbly with trust and confident as a no-limit person before the Ultimate One. You do this because you carry the highest possible given mission for better and greater world to live in, with loving, respect, justice, and honor toward one another.

Healing miracle ingridients

Here are some examples of practical miracle ingredients that you need to manifest your new way of being and to connect with your inner way.

Embrace things that I like about Me

Remove all doubt about what kind of person I can become

Stay focused on what I am for rather than what I am

Stretch self to a new “height”

Stop using statements in material world that reflect what it is that I do not want to be

Remind self daily that I am a purposeful being

Voice the voiceless inner materials to the counselor

Trust and commit to the healing path

Your miracles are an inside job. Go there with your counselor to create the magic that you seek in your life. That is indeed you begin to develop authentic power for yourself.