Overcoming the big self-fraud

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Pick a short story about something that happened to you today (“the incident”). Be aware of what happened inside you in the past week before today’s story unfolded.

When you are ready, sit and allow that story to come to mind. Write it down when the first emotion speaks. At this point, you can draw, paint, or find any other simple activity that can reflect what happened.

The most important thing is to connect all the events with specific sensory details so you can experience the whole story (before, in the moment, and after the incident) by observing them carefully. Remember to leave out the commentary, the judgments, or the insights because this is not its time yet.

You just describe what happened. You become like a lotus flower sitting in the water of your thoughts and emotions but not getting wet. Or, you just like sitting in the movie theatre and watching your story, and then you rewrite its script. Now, it is time to ask these questions, and it would be better if you could write the answers in the script under the parentheses.

What did I feel?

What did each of the people involved feel?

How did the feelings unfold?

What kind of thoughts made me or others feel that way (a week before, in the moment of the incident, and after the incident)?

And, now, you imagine yourself telling that story to an elder, a wise old man or woman, your therapist or counselor, and then listening while this person tells you the story’s meaningĀ for your life. What does this person say?

As a final point, express your gratitude by writing a testimonial regarding how much you have been transformed by practicing this exercise so that people who read your testimonial will also be transformed. You are a miracle.

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