Overcoming the big self-fraud


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Pick an actual short story about something that happened to you today (“the incident”). Be aware also with what happened inside you in the past week before today story unfold.

When you are ready, sit for a moment and allow that story to come to mind. Write it down when the first emotion speaks. At this point actually you can draw, paint, or find any other simple activity that is able to reflect the things that had happened.

The most important thing is to connect all the events with specific sensory details so you can experience the whole story (before the incident, in the moment of the incident, after the incident), by observing them carefully. Remember to leave out the commentary, the judgments, or the insights because this is not its time yet.

You just describe what happened. You become like a lotus flower who is sitting in the water of your thoughts and emotions but not getting wet. Or, you just like sitting in the movie theatre and are watching your own story and then you rewrite its script. Now, it is time to ask these questions and better if you able to write the answers in the script under the parentheses.

What did I feel?

What did each of the people involved feel?

How did the feelings unfold?

What kind of thoughts that made me or others felt that way (a week before the incident, in the moment of the incident, and after the incident)?

And, now you are imagining yourself telling that story to an elder, a wise old man or woman, your therapist or counselor, and then listening while this person tells you the meaning of the story for your life. What does this person say?

As a final point, express your gratitude by writing a testimonial regarding how much you have been transformed by practicing this exercise so that people who read your testimonial will be transformed as well. You are a miracle.

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