These questions will help you to determine how much of a worrier you are.
- Do many things worry you every day since you wake up in the morning?
- Do you make problems larger not smaller?
- Do you worry even during happy times or joyful moments?
- Do your worry preoccupied your mind and you can’t stop it, though you try hard?
- Do you worry about many things that most people around you do not worry about?
- When one worry is solved, do you immediately focus on another?
Your worry plays a very large role if you answered yeses to all six questions. The less yeses the better and healthier you are. You have moderate level of worry if you answered three to four yeses and a low level of worry if you only have one yes. Worry, which is a mental part of anxiety, is able to create anxiety thoughts, indicated by “what if…” or focus on “what might happen…”
Therefore, the more yeses you have the more excessive worrier you are, which mean the more you build up maladaptive anxiety thoughts. Your anxiety thoughts then become chronic or disorder when they interfere and disabling your daily life.
Here are the dynamics: (1) worry becomes anxiety thoughts, (2) anxiety thoughts provoke unrealistic fears, (3) fears are strengthened and become progressive especially when those are parallel or matching with the past happenings, (4) the past happenings apparent at the present moment as a feeling of doom, unease, or apprehensive which are continuously lingering in mind, and go beyond the real danger itself, and (5) fears then generate disorderly panic because of the experiences of steep terror from the uncertainties.
You will amaze when you realize how in this case, the objects of your “fears” are actually unclear. Realities and irrealities are then indistinguishable. Body and emotions react strongly to give response to fight or to flight. But if you decide to fight then the questions are, who or what are you going to fight? and how are you going to fight?
The “enemies” are not there and yet they are there in the thoughts. They are expressed through your emotions and body reactions. Your thoughts are your “enemies.” Your mind is the racing field of the disorder thoughts. You then accumulate and hoard more and more anxieties, by being anxious with your anxious mind, and your anxious mind anxious to unable stop of being anxious.
If you come to this point perhaps you need professional help. With a properly organize and holistic (i.e., medical, psychological, and spiritual) interventions by well trained therapist you learn to regain power over your anxiety thoughts. Don’t wait any longer. You then will learn to be a warrior than worrier in the therapeutic journey.