Break the circle of “mediocre”

When we believe we can do something, we implicitly tap into our brain’s resources. We will charge all our internal resources to find a way to support that belief. Therefore the impossible becomes possible. Only when we strongly believe something is impossible will we automatically not even try thinking of a way. We shut out the possibility altogether.

The challenge is that we have been growing up and continuing to live in so many ways under certain circumstances. Somehow we already have a certain way of thinking (i.e., dogmas, teachings, subcultures, even painful or traumatic experiences, etc., which become our Map of Reality). We don’t see the other possibilities because we already have the most relevant things. We are so comfortable with those belief systems.

Unfortunately, many people have never learned or never have guidance on how to direct and re-program the limiting patterns they run. They are not in charge of their brains. Instead, their brains take charge of them. They let their brains go on ‘auto-pilot,’ running average programs that keep limiting their performance. As a result, they will always feel that they can never do things better than they have done. They simply believe it is not within their control or ability.

This is the right time when we all are waiting for the coming year 2021 to reflect on our lives and ask these questions solemnly: “What challenges from the past can you celebrate overcoming? How has life taught you to grow right now? Have you been avoiding out of fear, and how does fear dictate your daily decisions and actions? Which challenges from the past that you want to celebrate overcoming? What new patterns and habits can you invite into your life?”

When we know the need to seek help, then seek humbly. The path is guiding. Our part is to encompass the calling within. Our capabilities are always more than our own thoughts. There are always more possibilities in front of us than we firmly believe in.
DR. Kusnadi

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Vigil Mass The Nativity of the Lord 2020

Vigil Mass—The Nativity of the Lord (Christmas)
Isaiah 62:1-5; Psalm 89:4-5, 16-17, 27, 29; Acts 13:16-17, 22-25; Matthew 1:18-25

Totally Keeping Christ Within

Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!
Lights – Candles – Christmas songs/Melodies – Gifts – Families Gathering – Real Happiness! Passion!

Do you aware of the simplest meaning of Christmas!

It is to keep Christ in your heart!
It is to make your heart merciful and merry Christ-mas!

How sad we are if we only see the candles, the lights, hear the music, the songs from the carols, all the prayers and celebrations we have, if we cannot bring Christ into our hearts! If we cannot experience the story of salvation as the reality to change, to transform our lives!

I believe you are not part of people who are “taking “Christ” out of Christmas!”

Christmas is a time to refresh our minds and heart to re-experience God’s intervention into the history of mankind, the history of ours; to restore to the consciousness of life that we have true peace and joy in the forgiveness of sin and freedom from its bondage; to renew in the mind and memory, that Christ as our Savior, is always BE WITH us. Emmanuel. He will never abandon us, especially the ones who welcome HIS LORDSHIP in our lives.

Keep your Christ in your heart, totally!

The message of the angel: “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary, your wife, into your home” is a free invitation to bravely open the heart’s door to cooperate with God’s plan. Joseph here became a key to letting human history be reversed by the only One who can reverse it. He did as the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary and the unborn baby into his home.

Remember, the Gospel has described Joseph as: “He was a just man.”
He was an ordinary person. He was just like Mary. Ordinary!

He was the one who was thinking to spare Mary; he betroths, and yet, was anxious about his reputation of hers. He was looking for the meaning of love and of justice. He was a man who had lots of compassion, forgiveness, and mercy in his heart, a real, genuine, and true gentleman who did not wish to embarrass or punish Mary when he discovered that she was pregnant. He was not hasty to judge or to react with hurt and anger. He totally expressed his love for Mary.

Joseph is an ordinary person. He is just like Mary. Ordinary, who kept his God in his heart totally! Which enabled him to let God penetrate his heart through his dream.

Now, the ordinary person received extraordinary messages!

Only by his total faith was he able to respond to it totally!

Remember: He was a just man! Like Mary, Joseph is a model of faith for us.

Today is Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!

Some of you have come alone tonight; others are with large families. Some of you made plans to be here, and some decided to come on a last-minute impulse. Some of you have had arguments with other family members about something. Some of you have been dragged here against your will. Some of you are mourning the loss of loved ones in the past… many, many of whom you and I remember well and miss very, very much tonight.

For those of you young, tonight is full of hope and anticipation; most of your Christmases are still in front of you. Older people are filled with memories of the Christmases past that will never come again. Some of you look forward to going home to heart, presents, and tree; others dread going home.

Remember, this is a magical night for whoever and whatever condition you are in.
This is learning to keep your re-born Christ in your heart totally! Don’t ever lose him again! Keep him in the most depth of your heart. Let your Christ incarnate tonight in your lives totally! Even when you are in a deep sleep this night.

Let us all celebrate this Christmas, not in a sentimental way. We are visiting Joseph and Mary and their newborn and becoming a part of their family. We do not sing a song or two but join the choir. We do not say a prayer or two but become persons of prayer. We do not exchange gifts, we more than share the gifts with the poor, but we advocate for the poor. We courageously enter the messy, painful, and dangerous, totally absorbing.

Today is Christmas EVE!
How magical it is!

Yeah, when our God enters human history, “in the flesh.”
And we keep our Christ totally in our hearts.

Merry Christ-mas!

Amen

DR. Kusnadi

“Waves” to Surrender

Waves
The rhythm of the ocean invites you in
like a new love
Relaxing in its cradling arms
You feel whole and at peace
Taking in the sky
But the waves sometimes catch you off guard
Coming one after the next
Forcing you to go under again and again
Struggling to catch your breath
Swept off your feet
Thrown against the ocean floor
Sand scraping skin
You gasp for air when the next wave pushes you down again
As soon as you come up for air you see the next wave about to crash on your head
Over and over
exhausted
Ready to surrender
Ready to give in
you eventually drag yourself out
Depleted of all energy
Muscles weak and aching from lack of oxygen and the energy it took to pull yourself out
You have nothing left
Body shaking
You must rest and catch your breath
It will take time to feel right again
You will think twice before you trust the ocean again
But that doesn’t matter right now
You’re too tired

-By LMcN

Becoming an author the heart’s desire paths

Happy Thanksgiving Day! 🙂

Mindfulness is the process of thought that consciously brings awareness to your here-and-now experience.

This process happens when the mind merges with the heart, making a person can have openness, interest, and receptiveness. Surprisingly with a humble process, one can live in the present moment. Because “mind with heart” makes it possible to experience the surroundings, have the clarity to engage fully with all senses, and detect what the automatic thoughts say.

Rather than getting lost in the moment, one can reprocess the dilemmas without dismissing them and making a clearer decision to do or respond. Rather than controlling the feeling, one can let the feelings be as they are without judging.

Through this process, the most painful thoughts, feelings/emotions that are unbearable remain neutral. Then, the “mind with heart” can observe and explore, then learn to accept and forgive. In this way, a desirable path that one doesn’t necessarily expect or see at that moment will arrive amazingly.

The transformation is happening daily in big and small ways. The suffering becomes the path of transformation to be better than experienced as bitter emotional control that needs to be avoided or fought. Destructiveness thoughts become the creative thoughts that create the heart’s desire paths.

DR. Kusnadi

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Mindfulness Breathing

Bringing awareness to breathing is an effective pathway to train the mind to meet unexpected situations as they arise.

The breathing creates a flowing and dynamic space, opening up any clenched or unyielding attitude. The mind is tranquil. The clarity that reigned tells the mind not to follow the incorrect judgment.

It is noteworthy to remember to return to mindful breathing repeatedly.

Asking simple questions: How fast or slow am I breathing? Be mindful of where the breathing is from and the breathing to. What feelings accompany the breathing? Paying attention to the tightness in the body and breathing from it and to it.

It takes some practice and is truly worth it. The aware breath creates the space within that liberates the soul to return to the present moment and return to harmony. The breath becomes fresh and surprisingly welcomes creative ideas of existence.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING 2020 🙂

DR. Kusnadi

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Healing & Acceptance

This is one of the prominent challenges to healing and transforming: “Be mindful of not becoming an eagle that fears height.” You need to learn and accept the fact first. The fact will teach and guide.

The fact will suggest embracing humility as the first step to welcome acceptance –whatever terrible feelings you have because of these negative thoughts such as, “I am not good enough,” “I am a loser,” or “I am unwanted.” The fact teaches that everything will be alright, that eagle needs to learn to spread its wings to jump out from the high cliff.

The magic words from the sacred within, such as “you are safe, you are loved, you are forgiven, and you are good enough,” will guide the transformation. The reason that makes acceptance becomes the gate of healing is that when you continue denying the reality of facts, you are continuing to wear one of those negative lenses.

You will do everything you can to assault the fact or reality you hate. Your automatic negative thinking immediately takes refuge in blame, self-pity, and righteous indignation to shore up your frail sense of self.

Again, there is a reason why healing will not avoid the fact or the situation or not act like a victim. Healing starts with the willingness to enter the gate of acceptance to be transformed. Humility needs to be bigger than false pride.
DR. Kusnadi

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The magical cloud

Standing on the highest ground. Amazingly drawn into the mystical, the mythical, and the magical cloud. The heart wraps with the glorious unseen ravines of silence, pouring the joyous music deep into the soul.

Enthralling the mind to see the infinite wonderful universe inside. The heart then rejoices to experience the presence of God, who is stirring kindles.

Humbly, a melody within sings that “a lively and radiant presence” is never mute. That is the moment when the sky meets the earth.

The earth holds time to breathe and wake to meet the heart’s desire in many ways. The sacred meeting is happening, delightedly and unstoppable.
DR. Kusnadi

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Majestic Fall

Fall means taking a deep breath.
Let nature teaches us to live and pause, slowing down and gently creating within with the thought of welcoming the new beginning—Let the sun recline above the equator, poised in harmony and making the universe ready to welcome the coming transformation.

The heart of all creation rejoices as an equal balance of light and dark, day and night, and the perfect humidity creates majestic colors.
As the decaying leaves spread the best fragrance, exulting every heart and resonating the most exalted senses.
Oranges, yellows, the purple dancing with the bright red of burning bushes make the heart unable to breathe because of their richness.

Sit in a field of yellow leaves warmed by the sun.
Breathe through the nose into the chest.
Hold briefly.
Let the breath fall into the upper belly.
Breathe out firmly through the mouth.
Open all senses and create tranquility within.
DR. Kusnadi

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Trust the self as trust the process

Believing in self to take action is the first. In the long run, confident action is much more successful than tentative action. It would be best to take confident action, believe in the ability to be consistent, and be humble enough to learn. Every step is getting closer to the destination. Sometimes, pausing, taking deep breaths, tapping clarity, and evaluating the vision are good—one step at a time. Trust the self as trust the process. Stay dedicated and move forward with an untainted spirit. Surprisingly you will be there!

DR. Kusnadi

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My very best wishes also

Together, life is beautiful 🙂

I am so fortunate to have you all as my friends.
Not only to have such but the absolute best.
Thank you for all your support along the way.
This is the most incredible birthday because of you.
We continue living life to its full meaning and purpose.
Filling it with as many joyous moments as we can
— together with our family, friends, people we love,
and the people around us —
To love and to serve.
Again thank you, dear friends.
My very best wishes also.
Rony K.