This is one of the prominent challenges to heal and to transform: “Be mindful of not becoming an eagle that fears of height.” You need to learn and to accept the fact first. The fact will teach and guide.
The fact will suggest embracing humility as the first step to welcome acceptance –whatever terrible feelings you has because of these negative thoughts of such as, “I am not good enough,” “I am a loser,” or “I am unwanted.” The fact teaches that everything will be alright, that eagle needs to learn to spread its wings to jump out from the high cliff.
The magic words from the sacred within, such as “you are safe, you are loved, you are forgiven, and you are good enough,” will guide to transform. The reason that makes acceptance becomes the gate of healing is that when you continue denying the reality of facts, you are continuing wearing one of those negative lenses.
You will do everything within your power to assault the fact or reality you hate. Your negative automatic thinking right away takes refuge in blame, self-pity, and righteous indignation to shore up your frail sense of self.
Again, there is a reason why healing will not avoid the fact or the situation or not act like a victim. Healing starts with the willingness to enter the gate of acceptance to be transformed. Humility than needs to be bigger than false pride.