Tag: Depression

Our mind is amazing! The mind is a demanding worry machine. It always wants to protect itself no matter what. Its perfectionist characteristic makes it do a superb job of being a perfect reminder of so many things.

The downside is that the mind never stops looking for problems to protect and cannot be turned off often. It always looks out for you, even when it seems to work against you. Sometimes you can portray the mind as an overbearing, overprotective, and anxious parent who is forever monitoring and meddling but means well (i.e., your safety).

Often, the mind possesses you with worry and fear and then calls to action, which frequently triggers maladaptive thoughts and self-defeating actions. Truly, the mind wants to help you achieve things, but precisely the opposite of what you desire. That is also why the mind floods you with the never-ending stream of thoughts, feelings, and impulse behaviors.

It would be best to remember that the mind acts like a magnet with its poles reversed. It attracts what you hope to avoid and repels what you desire. Hence the mind must follow certain rules, like putting your safety and survival above all else, avoiding danger, and ensuring that your needs are met for “the moment.” Remember, what the mind does is always from the standpoint of safety and survival.

Therefore, being “in the moment” is essential here. If you want to tame your own mind, you need to give the mind a concrete assurance that you are safe and secure now. The ability to be in the present becomes powerful here. Action at the moment is more powerful than many promises.

Now, let this all sink in for a moment. Just for this moment, come back to harmony. Just fill yourself breathing in and fill yourself breathing out. With each breath you inhale and exhale, you feel more and more comfortable, safe, and secure. You are accepted, forgiven, and loved.

Psychotherapy and Mindfulness-Based Intervention will help us grow surprisingly. Throughout this process, we learn to understand the pattern of our tendencies to be transformed.

We learn what we are now and what we will do. We choose decisions based on which one is likely the same or/or different in our life (i.e., family, work, and close personal relationships). With this knowledge of ourselves, we will move toward the principle of non-resisting — not resisting ourselves to grow effectively and to embrace the future gratefully.

This means that we know when ‘to act” and when “not to act.” It is because we understand the flow within and around us. We know the best timing for our actions and the consequences. We know and understand that it is unlikely to choose the frame of our “destiny” but what we put it in is ours.

We work with what we have been given. What potential we are given is what we are starting to journey in our lives. This journey is to be the best version of ours.
DR. Kusnadi

Close your eyes. Relax deeply. Visualize that you are going to go to your inner sanctuary. Imagine that you are standing on a path that envisions the future. You may now step into a sacred place within the center of your soul. Start to walk up the path. Be mindful that you are here with a special purpose. Picture yourself and how you enjoy using all senses. Note what you see, hear, smell, feel, and taste.

Now, as you continue to experience all the amazing things, you see your vision of the Higher Self coming toward you in the distance. Radiating clear, bright light. As you approach this vision, see how he/she looks and is dressed, whether male or female. Greet and ask what his/her name is. Take whatever name comes. Spend some time together. Pay attention to how you feel, what is said, or what is exchanged between you. Ask if there is anything he or she would like to say to you. You may ask specific questions.

When the experience together feels complete, thank your Higher Self, your inner guide. When the time right comes, you can express your appreciation and ask him or her to meet you again whenever you desire. Closing this inward journey with your personal prayer.

Now, you come back to harmony and bring all the wisdom from the depth of your soul that tells:

You are safe.
You are accepted.
You are forgiven.
You are loved.

You are a magnificent child of God.

DR. Kusnadi

Pay attention to the process of growth. Through it, one will learn true wisdom that “to live” is a constant relating process. The authentic calling is to come out of a shell of isolation and conclusion. The mind must embrace the reality of growing as willing to relate directly yet holding dear values.

The process of becoming then is to seek neither approval nor influence from or to. One needs to be mindful in the path of becoming. The mind and the heart need to learn to surrender the thoughts and feelings of “this is this” or “that is that.” The process then helps both the mind and heart do more reflective questions.

By doing all those processes, one will learn more to continue to grow while being alive in the experiences. There will be no reference to worry or fear about being judged or attached and then getting stuck.

The conclusion is the ultimate act of becoming aware of preparing the self to enter the novel gate of opportunities.
DR. Kusnadi

“Every day is a good day” is a simple statement, but few know its real meaning.

The “good day” does not refer to a nice day compared to a bad one.

It means the absolute, not the relative day.

Today is the absolute day, the only day in the eternity of time.

Today is never repeated. Every day is fresh and new, just as one’s life is new each day.

Every day is good, but the good is not of one’s own making.

It is good in the original or absolute sense—rain or shine, war or peace, sickness or health.

The past is only a reference; the future is the only hope. Today is real.

By Gyomay M. Kubose (Zen Koans)

Questioning who the person you are and the calling in this life is the way to explore your spiritual core. “Understanding who am I? What is my purpose? What do I value the most?” will tell you what path you are on now. These questions lead you down a road where you will think more in-depth about yourself and notice things about yourself to help you achieve fulfillment.

DR. Kusnadi