“It is okay not to be okay with failure; it is okay to give myself permission not to love failure, which means it is okay to feel safe with failure because failures help liberate, motivate, teach to be better and be more successful. Because my success is not about action being right but about consistently making better actions by learning from failures and moving forward. It is okay that I don’t have to fear failure! Just be cautious and be thoughtful!”
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
The key to success is the view that success is about learning. Seized the chance becomes the path of growing up. Persons with a fixed mindset think oppositely. They bother too much about being exposed to their insufficiencies. Because of that, they choose to feel smart in the short run. Their behavior is actually to hide or run away from challenges. Their rationalizing is bigger than the courageous heart. That is why they choose to become non-learners and pretend to be happy and satisfied with their lives.
Interestingly, they show no interest in the new information that could help them learn and grow—Vive versa, persons with a growth mindset respond differently. They will pay close attention to the new information that could expand their knowledge and see possibilities. They can process the information with the knowledge that the impossible thoughts could be possible. They view learning as a priority in life. Possibilities exist in every angle of life. It takes only 20 seconds of courage. Life is to grow, and to grow, is to take measurable risks and be happy with all the results. Results of the decision become powerful feedback to adapt and adjust new ways of being, understanding, and intervening.
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
It is safe to feel safe to be happy to live happily to be able to take care of yourself to carefree to have bigger dreams to have creative aspirations to have an adventure spirit to experience the unknown to grow and be better to release anxiety and fear to breathe easily to let go of things that hold you back to release doubts to be blessed to live in abundance to release all the tightness in your chest to embrace the unworthiness to feel worthy and good enough to set yourself free to have a plan and to be responsible to live a healthy lifestyle indeed it is safe certainly, it is safe
DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
It is excellent to want better in life. It is fantastic to improve your way of being. That is the reason we need to have purpose and meaning. All is about being more purposeful to move forward to a better life direction. Because of that, it is necessary to have a persistent state of desire which, perversely, could create a grasping mind.
The grasping mind, at first, somehow makes you feel in control, as you will feel safe temporarily. After that, however, you will start feeling empty and hollow, and you need to unlearn the grasping mind. With active contemplation, you need to learn to embrace the non-grasping mind with the non-grasping attitude.
Therefore, you need to start paying attention to the present moment. You learn to meditate upon the blessings that make up your reality in the now. You learn to focus your energy on appreciation, kindness, and compassion. You learn the practice of acceptance, to let go of unnecessary things in life. You learn the interconnectedness with others. This practice expands the mind to be in the present moment.
The non-grasping mind and attitude always welcome the future and celebrate, be thankful, and be grateful for the past. All come naturally and be just happening.
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
The mystery of transformation is something different. Transformation happens when something old falls apart, not when something new happens. In this process, you carry your identity with new ways of being, understanding, and doing.
You will be surprised to discover that continuity and discontinuity happen at the same time. The pain invites you to listen at a deeper level, learning to surrender and letting God in. You experience chaos at first. It happened because of the pain of the past — as the old belief system is falling apart.
Certainly, you see the old pattern way of doing or being is no longer working. You learn to unhand the anticipation of pain and the fear of being in pain. You know that apparently, you were deeply entrenched in the past, and now, you are clearly a free person.
You will be ready when you have hope amongst things that “looks insanity” yet liberate and give a sense of freedom.
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services, LLC
You need to excite your imagination if you want to reach your goal. The powerful goal needs specific measurement that provides motivational energy and can capture a huge reality that you believe in deep in your heart. It is like the impossible thoughts that you know now is possible, which fill you with clarity and purpose.
This powerful goal becomes a part of your daily life because it is a fresh perspective. You can taste, smell, and feel it is happening. You believe that you are on the right track. Probably you can say that this is kind of a dream with a deadline. But, the amazing part is that its deadline makes you feel wonder, awe, and purposeful. You know what you’re up to in life. You can breathe and sense a delightful freedom.
This powerful goal transforms you. Life’s landscape becomes a lot more interesting. You realize that there is a new dimension of life that you never considered before because you couldn’t see it; now, you are on the path to it. You can say life is worth living.
It is phenomenal to know in this life journey: You don’t need to believe in all your dreams. Yet, it would be best if you dreamed big enough regardless you believe in it or not. It would be a paramount life journey if you believed that all knowledge exists to inform and teach; all wisdom appears to guide, and all insights and guidance happen to show you the path, all in all. That’s it. DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
Be mindful of your breath as you slow down your respiration.
Then move your mindfulness to the center of your chest, and within, to your heart. Be aware of the quietness till you get lost. Move your mindfulness into space between the physical and spiritual bodies wherein the heart exists as the soul’s bed. The quiet stillness in this sacred space is so unique and memorable.
Be centered for a moment. Be kind and gentle with the inward movement. You just “be.” This sacred space is your soul searching. You have left everything else behind because of this.
You become the sacredness of oneness because no words, visualizations, or sensory stimulation are needed.
You become the oneness because you become aware that all knowledge exists, all wisdom appears, and all insights and guidance happen.
When you desire a particular insight, all you have to do is call it forth, all happening effortlessly.
This is the right moment to spend as much time as you desire with this heightened awareness. You are simply noting your own experience without expectations or preconceived ideas.
You can bring your awareness back into your body when ready.
Newly buds greet the morning sun. Ears hear the morning birds’ call. Eyes see into the sky of the mind. My sense feels how every smile in the morning has power. Even every half-smile blooms every perfected bud to the fullness. The gratitude heart then unfolds on every leaf. Gradually, the obstacles to freedom start to dissolve. Clarity illuminates the confusion. Wisdom prunes ignorance. Positivities are then reborn to celebrate the day. Yes, how amazing life is.
Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
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