Do you agree with this statement?  If somebody really wants to be happy, nobody can stop him from being happy. Happiness definitely is an inside job! Nobody can ruin one’s happiness! They can probably upset someone but can only temporarily displace one’s happiness. Because still, nobody can take away one’s happiness. Thus, to cultivate the fullness of life, one needs to trust this reality as a daily truth ~ every day, every morning when waking up in the morning ~ that “nobody can ruin one’s happiness unless he or she allows it to happen.”

Some people probably think the statement above is too simple and untouchable with reality. Still, some findings tell that one’s happiness positively correlates with one’s capability to develop the character of saying yes to the statement “nobody can ruin one’s happiness.” When a person can say yes to his or her “self” about that matter, that person believes that he or she can enhance the capability to make life happier. Therefore, that person will have better and greater chances of being a happier person in the present moment and in the future.

Saying yes for own happiness to the “self” and meaning it and doing it is significant. One needs to agree and commit first to allow one to be happy and become a happier person. With that positive conviction, one can strive more and believe more in the possibility of being a happier person. In this dynamic, the person flows with positive core belief and then becomes a part of the flow itself, and the flow becomes a happening, which transforms this person into a happier one.

The challenge is when one doesn’t believe in it but still says it and then feels miserable inside. Or, when one says it but doesn’t know the meaning of it and keeps saying it but doesn’t go with it. Or, when one says “yes” only to please the others who are “asking” or “inviting” to satisfy, not to hurt, not to disappoint the others. Or, the statement “yes” is already a daily commodity, stored in the subconsciousness, which is stated by a person without depth, without entity and meaning. Or when to scare off the consequences of saying “yes” and not wanting to take responsibility for being seen differently. Even there is a more painful reality when one says “yes” only to compromise with the screaming of the wounded inner voices trembling and shaking with only the thought of saying “No.”

Again, “nobody can ruin one’s happiness.” When a person says “yes” about that matter with bold, depth, and strong entity, then there will be a movement that follows. This inner movement brings to the real possibility that change is happening; that challenges the status quo of the self is starting. It is an inner act of bugging and correcting the comfortable position.

When one says “yes” to the statement “nobody can ruin one’s happiness,” the inner self is just telling the mind, heart, and body to listen to the inner thirst. One starts believing that thirst is real. The thirst becomes an inner calling to shred down all self-defense. Then plunge one’s mind and heart into the call and enter the core, and then discover the grit that doesn’t let the mind and heart rest until it is uncovered.

You will experience those things in the therapy sessions. You will learn that ambivalence is a wake-up call to move on and to change for the better version of you. You will be challenged to choose between the conflicts because you have power over yourself to be happy, and “nobody can ruin your happiness unless you allow it happens.” You need to choose to be happy, either you are in the positions: (1) All the choices are sweet—sugars—positive; (2) between the devil and the deep blue sea—when all the choices are negative; (3) at the time you are attracted to and repelled by the same object—Fatal Attraction–“I can’t live with it, and I can’t live without it!” Roulette Game! Or (4) when you are torn between two alternatives (lovers, lifestyles, work, and children, etc.)—Each has both enticing positive and powerful negative aspects.