One of the great fears of modern society is the fear of loneliness and alienation. This is the most personal of fears. Loneliness or alienation is hurt. The pain is not just psychological; it often can manifest itself through physical symptoms that refuse to go away—or even, walking away, escaping from others. It gets worse when is followed by panic attack symptoms and becoming a codependent person. The uncertainty, feeling isolated and imminent threats preoccupied mind. There is a deep hollow inside the heart, empty at the core of being. Worthless becomes reality. T.S. Eliot expressed this experience in his poem, “The Hollow Men,” saying:
We are the hollow men
We are the stuffed men
Headpiece filled with straw.
Hollow people feel they have no foundation, nothing to build their lives upon. They feel that no one, above all no one cares for them. Look at how the Samaritan woman did not have a kind of willingness to draw water in the morning, or in the evening together with another women who would habitually come to the well, because they were avoiding the heat.
Amazingly, the deepest yearning to quench the thirst is actually unstoppable.
The story of Samaritan woman (John 4:5-25) probably is able to explain this miraculous guidance. She who was in the sorrow and hollow situation finally was able to meet with the divine professional “Healer.”
Her dried voices, when she whispered was quiet and meaningless, as wind in dry grass… She was thirsty inside…
Searching water under the midday sun perhaps spiritually symbolized how desperately she was to find something, which would quench her thirst. She had tried everything including “five husbands.” She had forgotten—that mostly, the lonely—and the alienated person often and tended to re-connect with person whom equally lonely, alienated, equally isolated, rejected and empty within. She leaned on just another person of straw.
The healing transformation story started when she who was aware with her own shadow (i.e., sorrow and hollow), miraculously meeting with a great professional divine “Healer.” Jesus began the conversation: “Give me drink!” It meant, “I thirst!” He put himself at the same pace with the woman who was thirsty. He got her attention.
That starting conversation was powerful and very therapeutic. It was explained by Carl G. Jung who ever said,
At no time the Samaritan woman is more conscious of her “darkness” of life when it exposes in the noon time, in the midst of heat and burning light. At that moment she could trust that her dark night of life had come in service of the light. She could breathe through the transition and did the work that was necessary to prepare for her rebirth. She moved from codependency to interdependency personality. The therapeutic conversation guided her to stand on the threshold and to commit toward the healing transformation journey to becoming new.
She was more aware at that moment that she was not alone. She was standing and talking with professional divine “Healer.” The external and internal ideologies, beliefs systems, the old time dogmatic statements that block the genuine truthful relationship were crumbling down. Her statement of “How can you, a Jew, ask me, a Samaritan woman, for a drink?” didn’t mean anything now. Instead of debate or reasoning, she experienced directly that the Healer offered her “living water.”
Furthermore, she was challenged to be more mindful to manage her own faith and confidence toward the healing transformation process. Her new belief system installed. Her awareness of her own inadequacies had been transformed throughout the direct therapeutic conversation with the professional divine “Healer.” She journeyed from deficit to the fullness of discipleship.
The walls of the frozen culture, religious boundaries, ideologies, theologies, beliefs systems or dogmatic teachings that had divided and had abandoned one another in the family of human race, between Jews and Samaritan, between the status or position of male and female, husband and wife, between parents and children were broken down.
The miraculous therapeutic encounter freed her as a person. She had strength and courage to rush back to her city to become a witness that the healing had happened. She proclaimed and gave testimony to the whole village. She left her water bucket at the well—she left her old way of life behind. She had been healed and transformed.