Silence is so tender. Laid your soul in the sponge of the universe. The smell of rice plants, the sound of chirping birds, and the distant stream help give up ego defenses, then merge with the fragrance of flowers and leaves. Silence is tender, strong, and gentle. It is active, accepting, and passively embracing. Silence is a dynamic space from the mind and heart that wants to learn to unlearn and unleash spontaneity and creativity. In silence, the true self shines, transforming coercive thoughts into a cohesive mind. No more dichotomy. Mind and heart fuse, and both make love with the determiners of senses.
Coercion is an action based on force and authority that strongly dominates one’s will in one’s responses to external stimuli. The fascinating part is that although people, by nature, know that they are free, supreme, and sovereign, they still, daily, more likely subconsciously surrender to various forms of coercion. Somehow, amid coercive thoughts, one tries hard to deny one’s freedom, self-ownership, and sovereignty, and becomes submissive. Whereas cohesion is the meeting of two subjects based on attractive chemistry, and both agree and allow each other to interact. In the dynamics of cohesion, both are loved, embraced, and freed; both are in a dynamic relationship of learning with one another.
How to move from coercion to cohesion?
Become aware of your thoughts. Explore your attitudes toward yourself and the closest one. Explore your ideas and core beliefs. Notice if you have any punitive beliefs toward yourself and others. Furthermore, it is indicated by habit to be very hard and rigid toward oneself… Dogmatic beliefs… Beliefs you hold on to rather than beliefs that were born from your inner longing.
Beliefs that resist growth in loving self and others deeper… Notice if you have cynical ideas that say nothing will change anyway… because “I have to… I must too… I have no choice…”
Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D.
