Exploration of who you are

To Dear Friend,

This assignment is to explore who you are. It is the way to know yourself better and enables you to draw a starting point from where and to where you want to go. These are some conditions that you need to incorporate before beginning your personal journey:

First, you need to make this journey your priority so that you will have a special certain available time every day to sit with yourself and start to write/journey;

Second, you need to be patient and gentle toward yourself—sometimes, you will journey through the uneasy events in your past, which is okay because it is for better understanding and healing. It is probably hurt, and it is okay because you want to improve in the future. Because you do not want to fall into the same false repetitive behaviors

Third, you need to unmask yourself. It is hard because sometimes you do not want to see the real you. You don’t want to see who you really are. It is hard to become real who you are. It would help if you were open and honest towards yourself;

And fourth, the most important part is that you believe this exercise is not only an exercise. This exercise is your journey and will give you many benefits to better understand the NOW and develop the plan for TOMORROW/FUTURE.

  • Fill in the blanks on the age periods that apply to you (My Personal Time Line). This is your first personal self-inventory work.
  • Rewrite the blank paper the information by adding the content and description of the events, the positive and negative moments, the feelings, and the thoughts to know the interactions better. Considering to include the relevant childhood experiences (The interaction with parents and with other family members as your inner circle, and the extended ones—such as your friends, your neighbors, and your environment), developmental (the conditions how you grew up and how you are affected).
  • Closing your journey with how much you, NOW, are different than your past (describe it); How many parts of you still remain the same with your past (describe it); and how much you want to change (to grow)! Answer this question to identify your future: What does it mean to be the best version you are?

Learning to be the best version of who you are is the greatest way. It is about focusing on the Lessons. You will continue to grow better, stronger, and more amazing every day. You can rejoice in your unlimitedness because you can see the opportunities and possibilities.

Good Luck!

My support and prayers

DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC

Notable Life Counseling Services LLC

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Kairos is a Greek word.
Kairos is different from Chronos (i.e., Chronology).

Chronos is concrete.
It is a human attempt to systemize the order of God’s creation.
It is a human attempt to measure time in an orderly fashion so we can create a schedule, work on our achievements by making plans, and reach our goals effectively.

It is really valuable in our hands if we use it well.
Chronos is determined by the flesh.

Kairos is abstract.
It refers to the appointed time, the right time, the fullness of time, and the time of opportunity for action or change. In theology, it is to describe the qualitative form of time. Sometimes we say, “Oh, this is my day! I got it!” for unexpected things happen, and we love to have it.

The tragedy of being ignorant of our Kairos is that when it is over, it is over. One of our windows of destiny that was offered would be closed. The river will never be in the same place twice. The Kairos moment may never return again!

Have you ever watched the drama & romance movie “Serendipity?” It is about a small event that can probably change your life!

We often get caught up with chronos and rarely discern the Kairos moment.

We tend to be unconscious of our Kairos moments, having no idea when our time arrives or our time to change begins. We have no idea how blessed we are as persons—as the ones who have so many blessings!

We tend to be unconscious to connect to our inner movement. The awareness to experience the love around us is really important. That God, The Ultimate Power, had and has been touching us at every moment and every event personally, when we wake up in the morning, when we close our eyes at night, and even when we are in our deep sleep.

Hope we are more than these simple experiences:

[Jeannette opens her senses to the presence of God. Waking up in the morning. Saying thank you for the blessing of the new day. Washing her face with warm water, then brushing her teeth. Doing some little makeup. Then, drinking a cup of tea. Sitting on her porch, watching the sunrise for a couple of minutes. Walking with her Debbie, a little cutie Yorkie puppy girl, through the valley, passing a beggar on the street. Helping an old lady crossing the busy morning street. Returning back home. Nursing her baby. Teaching her boy to tie a shoe. She smiles when she sees how different her boy is from one day to another. Watching mindfully how much her boy had grown up! Working in the shelter. Helping to cook for the homeless! Listening to the wounded one who needed to be listened to. Taking some time for herself, sitting in her own space/gap. Reading the scripture. Experiencing the meaning of being and being peaceful in silence. Jeannette makes herself ready to catch her Kairos.]

How far have you prepared for your personal Kairos! You need “Chronos” to form the new chapter of your life! Here and NOW.

DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC

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Be Still, Calm, & Trust

[Be still in the silence. Listen to the God without and within. When you hear the sounds, it has to come to listen to the voices. But be aware not to listen to the voices as the sounds. The divine, our risen Lord, is present in every moment and place. God rewards those who earnestly seek Him (Hebrews 11:6)]

[Tips: When we are in trouble—when the sounds and the voices become chaotic: Be still and take deep breaths. Under these circumstances, we often forget to breathe deeply, so we hear the air expand our chest and rush through our nostrils. So be still and welcome the calm and quiet as you invite your Lord to come and stay, or either way, you visit God’s heart or home.]

DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC
Notable Life Counseling Services LLC

verified by Psychology Today

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