Month: February 2022

The extreme disruption made people aware that there was something wrong. Here, the disruption enables them to notice the extremely random thoughts. In that situation, people often believe they are not safe and in a chaotic situation. That is why solitude is frequently experienced as a disruption of real life that is often experienced as busy, messy, and cluttered.

In the solitudes, the slowing down mind forces us to see and experience the small ripple and the giant wave of emotions. This experience could lead to terrifying feelings because of the sudden awareness that there are so many thoughts and unfamiliar emotions in a second or a minute. The abrupt, with no continuous stimulation, triggers and exacerbates the hysteria. Solitude becomes frightening when there is no grasp to relinquish the fight within.

So, it is important, as we’re breathing, we need to take a moment and learn to adapt, adjust, and get used to the solitudes. Then, we can find an enlightened way of being, understanding, and responding to the challenges ahead. The longer we cultivate the non-grasping thoughts and emotions, the freer we will be. We are no longer confined or imprisoned by our suppositional thoughts and maladaptive emotions.

We then begin to notice that life is the realization of its contingency. We learn that life is perpetual transcendence, always moving into the future and creating the present. In many ways, life is the acceptance of finitude and responsibilities to care, love, and grow. Life is a calling to make better and greater humanity and a more wonderful universe.

Looking back at the dynamic between disruption and regularity, we learn that life is neither fixed nor absolute, ambiguous. Instead, life is full of possibilities that are entailed by existence. So what does this all mean? Certainly that the choices we make daily transform life itself. The choices bear the creative process that leads the mind and heart to embrace the aesthetic experience of the world. We can experience the world as both rich and beautiful through this process.

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DR. Rony Kusnadi Ph.D., LCPC

We have between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day that we don’t notice. We believe them. We swim through our thoughts like a fish swims through water. We don’t even notice how we think and sense. We don’t notice the colors and the sights around us.

The most interesting part is that we often notice the thoughts we don’t like. What is really going on is that we don’t like those thoughts. We want to avoid, to fix them. But, somehow, we don’t know what to do with them. So we struggle against them and think it is impossible to win. We feel hopelessness and helplessness. We get trapped, and the worst, we feel we can’t breathe.

Here’s the bottom line, the more we fight, the loser we will be and the stronger those thoughts are, and the more disordered we are.

The catastrophic thoughts preoccupied the thoughts and then triggered disproportionate maladaptive emotions. We obsessively struggle against those thoughts and get stuck in an endless loop of overthinking. The struggle doesn’t get better because the struggle becomes a robust sponger that terrifies the soul, disables, steals our total discretion, and depletes energy.

Now, if you can feel a strong connection to the described facts above, then it is time to STOP, BREATHE, and THINK of all the ways you can; IGNITE the STOP commands to convey critical thinking.

You can pull up a “chair” of your core and imagine yourself mastering five ways to surrender:

(1) Don’t suppress the thoughts that you don’t like. STOP and divert your attention away from the thoughts above. STOP and do things that help your thoughts, NOT follow the default. STOP and tell yourself to do creative, active activities, such as listening to an Audiobook, doing a Crossword puzzle, or trying to solve Sudoku, Cryptograms, or Word Searches.

(2) The intrusive thoughts are different than reality. It is worth of being able to STOP to recognize their differences. Be mindful to STOP asking the questions with “what if….” Instead, be mindful of the reality of the now and continue building a stronger connection with the present moment. STOP and TRUST that you are alright and will be okay, that you will be better and have a better future. Those are necessary.

(3) Identify the triggers. Your thoughts are often not entirely random, and your daily interactions may influence them. STOP questions and START keeping a journal of the thoughts that you don’t want. Then, STOP and ask yourself how to understand the patterns of those thoughts over time. By doing this, you exercise mastery, becoming a master of your thoughts.

(4) Transform the lifestyle wholeheartedly. STOP and picture what your life will be if you develop positive changes in your daily routine. Then, STOP and COMMIT to what you already planned and CONSISTENT to enforce the choices that you already made to better yourself. Finally, STOP and understand that following the transforming alternatives will be worthwhile.

(5) Talk it out will give you new insight and healing. You do not rule out therapy because it is proven beneficial. STOP and think about what is noteworthy to your life now. STOP and BE IN THE PRESENT. STOP and be mindful when you are breathing. STOP and implant these words in your brain:

I choose to let go and surrender. I visualize the boat turning around to a better life direction, the “me” dropping the oars and floating downstream happily through the scenic surroundings and the fresh air. All is well. All is well.

Notable Life Counseling Services LLC
DR. Rony Kusnadi, Ph.D., LCPC