The journey toward wholeness

[A greater unity always tries to emerge in everything we experience, even neurosis. The widening of consciousness is at first upheaval and darkness, then a broadening out to wholeness — Carl Jung.]

Carl Jung believed that the process of individuation, or the journey towards self-realization and wholeness, is the human psyche’s natural and innate tendency. He also believed this process involves integrating the self’s conscious and unconscious aspects.

In the context of neurosis, Jung saw it as a symptom of a lack of wholeness or unity within the psyche. He believed neurosis results from the unconscious attempting to compensate for the conscious neglect of certain aspects of the self. Therefore, he saw neurosis as an opportunity for the psyche to achieve greater wholeness and integration.

Jung believed that the widening of consciousness is a process that involves facing and integrating one’s shadow, or the repressed and unconscious aspects of the self. This process can be challenging and involve upheaval and darkness, which may require confronting difficult emotions and experiences. However, as one moves through this process, one can experience a broadening out to wholeness as one integrates these previously neglected aspects of the self.

In summary, Jung believed that greater unity always tries to emerge in everything we experience, including neurosis. The individuation process involves integrating both conscious and unconscious aspects of the self. The widening of consciousness can involve upheaval and darkness but ultimately lead to a broadening out to wholeness.

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Hopeful Imagination

In the depths of my mind,
Amidst the chaos and noise,
There lies a glimmer of hope,
A place where dreams rejoice.

With every beat of my heart,
And with every breath that I take,
I feel the power of imagination,
A force that never forsakes.

In this place, I see a world,
Full of beauty and wonder,
A place where peace and love,
Reign supreme like thunder.

The sun shines bright,
The skies are blue,
The world is filled with laughter,
And everything feels new.

The birds sing sweetly,
The flowers bloom with grace,
The world is a living canvas,
And hope is its embrace.

In this world, even though there is pain,
Even though there is sorrow or despair,
There are always endless possibilities,
And hope that fills the air.

So I close my eyes,
And let my mind take flight,
For in this place of hopeful imagination,
Everything is possible and bright.

Salvation always happening!

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Five social factors strategies to overcome inferiority feelings

Inspired by Alfred Adler’s thoughts

It is important to be more mindful of the importance of social factors in developing personality and mental health. The sense of social inadequacy leads to inferiority feelings. Here are five practical ways that can help someone overcome inferiority feelings:

First, every person needs to explore and identify their strengths and abilities. Everyone has a unique set of talents and abilities. So, recognizing and developing these strengths and then learning to pursue activities to develop these abilities are necessary.

Second, every person needs a positive social support system. Healthy social relationships are essential for mental health and well-being. The presence of supportive friends and family members who can provide emotional support and encouragement is noteworthy.

Third, the ability to challenge negative self-talk needs to come to an awareness. Negative self-talk and self-criticism were major contributors to feelings of inferiority. Therefore, identifying, challenging, and replacing negative self-talk with more positive and constructive ones is paramount.

Forth, having a sense of purpose and direction in life to identify and pursue meaningful goals is essential for mental health and well-being.

And fifth, it is necessary to have healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with daily stress and setbacks. Every person needs to believe in the ability to cope effectively by developing routines, mindfulness activities, and creative pursuits. In addition, commitment, consistency, and persistence undoubtedly build resilience, which increases mental immunity.

Overall, overcoming feelings of inferiority requires a compassionate and supportive approach that emphasizes every person’s unique strengths and abilities. So, by providing a positive and empowering environment, every person continues developing the confidence and self-esteem to thrive.

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Building Self Confidence

Building self-confidence is an ongoing process that requires consistent effort and willingness to step outside your comfort zone. Here are some tips to help you boost your self-confidence:

  1. Identify your strengths and weaknesses: Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and find ways to build on them. When you know your weaknesses, you can work on improving them.
  2. Challenge negative self-talk: Negative self-talk can be a significant barrier to building self-confidence. Whenever you think negatively about yourself, challenge those thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations.
  3. Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself can help boost your confidence. Practice self-care can include getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising regularly, and doing things that make you happy.
  4. Set achievable goals: Set achievable goals for yourself and work towards them. When you achieve your goals, it will help boost your confidence.
  5. Step outside of your comfort zone: Facing your fears and overcoming new challenges can help you build self-confidence. Start small and work your way up to bigger challenges.
  6. Surround yourself with positive people: Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. They can help you build your confidence and offer encouragement when you need it.

Remember, building self-confidence takes time and effort, but it is possible. So be patient with yourself and keep working towards your goals.

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Quiet, peaceful, and still

Quiet, peaceful, and still.
when you let go,
when you learn the art of surrender
you are stronger
you are more in control
you embrace wisdom
Quiet, peaceful, and still.
That is the way of the path.
All come naturally
when you let go
more in control
more wisdom
more faith
more trust
more learning
and growth
with assurance
with hopeful imagination
to be better
be better
it is you
Quiet, peaceful, and still.
It heals, loves, and it is you.

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Exploration of who you are

To Dear Friend,

This assignment is to explore who you are. It is the way to know yourself better and enables you to draw a starting point from where and to where you want to go. These are some conditions that you need to incorporate before beginning your personal journey:

First, you need to make this journey your priority so that you will have a special certain available time every day to sit with yourself and start to write/journey;

Second, you need to be patient and gentle toward yourself—sometimes, you will journey through the uneasy events in your past, which is okay because it is for better understanding and healing. It is probably hurt, and it is okay because you want to improve in the future. Because you do not want to fall into the same false repetitive behaviors

Third, you need to unmask yourself. It is hard because sometimes you do not want to see the real you. You don’t want to see who you really are. It is hard to become real who you are. It would help if you were open and honest towards yourself;

And fourth, the most important part is that you believe this exercise is not only an exercise. This exercise is your journey and will give you many benefits to better understand the NOW and develop the plan for TOMORROW/FUTURE.

  • Fill in the blanks on the age periods that apply to you (My Personal Time Line). This is your first personal self-inventory work.
  • Rewrite the blank paper the information by adding the content and description of the events, the positive and negative moments, the feelings, and the thoughts to know the interactions better. Considering to include the relevant childhood experiences (The interaction with parents and with other family members as your inner circle, and the extended ones—such as your friends, your neighbors, and your environment), developmental (the conditions how you grew up and how you are affected).
  • Closing your journey with how much you, NOW, are different than your past (describe it); How many parts of you still remain the same with your past (describe it); and how much you want to change (to grow)! Answer this question to identify your future: What does it mean to be the best version you are?

Learning to be the best version of who you are is the greatest way. It is about focusing on the Lessons. You will continue to grow better, stronger, and more amazing every day. You can rejoice in your unlimitedness because you can see the opportunities and possibilities.

Good Luck!

My support and prayers

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Kairos is a Greek word.
Kairos is different from Chronos (i.e., Chronology).

Chronos is concrete.
It is a human attempt to systemize the order of God’s creation.
It is a human attempt to measure time in an orderly fashion so we can create a schedule, work on our achievements by making plans, and reach our goals effectively.

It is really valuable in our hands if we use it well.
Chronos is determined by the flesh.

Kairos is abstract.
It refers to the appointed time, the right time, the fullness of time, and the time of opportunity for action or change. In theology, it is to describe the qualitative form of time. Sometimes we say, “Oh, this is my day! I got it!” for unexpected things happen, and we love to have it.

The tragedy of being ignorant of our Kairos is that when it is over, it is over. One of our windows of destiny that was offered would be closed. The river will never be in the same place twice. The Kairos moment may never return again!

Have you ever watched the drama & romance movie “Serendipity?” It is about a small event that can probably change your life!

We often get caught up with chronos and rarely discern the Kairos moment.

We tend to be unconscious of our Kairos moments, having no idea when our time arrives or our time to change begins. We have no idea how blessed we are as persons—as the ones who have so many blessings!

We tend to be unconscious to connect to our inner movement. The awareness to experience the love around us is really important. That God, The Ultimate Power, had and has been touching us at every moment and every event personally, when we wake up in the morning, when we close our eyes at night, and even when we are in our deep sleep.

Hope we are more than these simple experiences:

[Jeannette opens her senses to the presence of God. Waking up in the morning. Saying thank you for the blessing of the new day. Washing her face with warm water, then brushing her teeth. Doing some little makeup. Then, drinking a cup of tea. Sitting on her porch, watching the sunrise for a couple of minutes. Walking with her Debbie, a little cutie Yorkie puppy girl, through the valley, passing a beggar on the street. Helping an old lady crossing the busy morning street. Returning back home. Nursing her baby. Teaching her boy to tie a shoe. She smiles when she sees how different her boy is from one day to another. Watching mindfully how much her boy had grown up! Working in the shelter. Helping to cook for the homeless! Listening to the wounded one who needed to be listened to. Taking some time for herself, sitting in her own space/gap. Reading the scripture. Experiencing the meaning of being and being peaceful in silence. Jeannette makes herself ready to catch her Kairos.]

How far have you prepared for your personal Kairos! You need “Chronos” to form the new chapter of your life! Here and NOW.

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Be Still, Calm, & Trust

[Be still in the silence. Listen to the God without and within. When you hear the sounds, it has to come to listen to the voices. But be aware not to listen to the voices as the sounds. The divine, our risen Lord, is present in every moment and place. God rewards those who earnestly seek Him (Hebrews 11:6)]

[Tips: When we are in trouble—when the sounds and the voices become chaotic: Be still and take deep breaths. Under these circumstances, we often forget to breathe deeply, so we hear the air expand our chest and rush through our nostrils. So be still and welcome the calm and quiet as you invite your Lord to come and stay, or either way, you visit God’s heart or home.]

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Om Ritam Namah


Let the tranquility of mind and heart guide the inner path. First, let your core engage in a pose and be fully present. Then let the whole of you experience the warm presence of cosmic intelligence. Om Ritam Namah. Cherish the purity of desire and intentions to embrace the light of the true self. Let the cosmic intelligence then teaches how to relinquish attachments. Let it guide you through releasing inner resistance, increasing its flexibility, unfolding, liberating, and transforming. Om Ritam Namah.

Let the “Truth” and the “Knowledge of Reality” dances with the “Surrenderness of the EGO.” This dance opens the sense of self to receive a higher awareness of ALL THAT IS. Om Ritam Namah is the sacred dancing within for the one who opens him/herself to the truth of reality and an awareness of the universal energy, or God-force.

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One Mindful Breathing at a Time

Breathe through the nose into the chest.
Hold briefly.
Let the breath fall into the upper belly.
Communicate gently throughout every cell in the body,
and every layer of the subsconciousness.
Then breathe out gently through the mouth.

Remember that everything you need is within, and you have faith in your intuitive and healing power. As you surrender and accept, peace and serenity abide in your relaxed body. All your emotion is like a smooth and glassy lake. They reflect the energy from the Solar Plexus.

Feel that peace now. Let the peace circulates and the healing energy glow from your heart. It flows like a golden light throughout every cell in and through your body. It heals, loves, and it is you.

You just need to start with one mindful breath. This is more than just breathing. This is the breathing to live forward, heal, and be better; to live healthier, happier, and wealthier. This is the hopeful imagination. It is because you have the assurance that creates more peace within; and more peace for you and becoming the “you.”

Because you give yourself permission to be easy with yourself, you are easier and easier to be at peace. You have peace with the process of becoming who you want to become. You just need to start with one mindful breathing at a time.

From this breathing, you tap your deep assurance, manifesting the freedom to choose and do what you want. It is unlimited because you know who you want to become and how to become the best version of who you are. The limitation is only with your imagination.

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